Ask HN: What brings you joy, without a relationship?

6 pointsby valuepropvor 8 Jahren7 comments

Healthy male, 38, financially secure. Being depressed about not having a relationship/wife/family, doing counseling for 3 months already. Rather than focusing on what's missing, I'm working on focusing what I could do on my own.

What activities which don't depend on having a SO bring you joy?

Thanks for sharing.

7 comments

mericvor 8 Jahren

Continue your journey and walk the path of becoming the best person you can be. The further you're on it, the more people want to join you for a ride. It's not uncommon for men to start a family at 45, you have time; Face your emotions and wants head on & keep going!

montrosevor 8 Jahren

Learning new things. Making things. Making the world better in some way. Doing something I wasn't able to before. Exercise. Seeing things I've always wanted to see.

sharemywinvor 8 Jahren

Do you have a friend(s) you can go do things with?

valuepropvor 8 Jahren

Not really. I have 3 friends, all married with kids.

sharemywinvor 8 Jahren

maybe join a cooking class or something like that.

taylodlvor 8 Jahren

In my case it's playing guitar and practicing a martial art. I like these activities because I get some time away from my SO and it has nothing to do with programming or tech so I get a break from work as well.

Neowizardvor 8 Jahren

Making/building stuff. Be it home improvement or just some gizmo, it makes me feel free