Just wanted to chime in and say that I'm feeling the same way. I'm 34 years old, and have a wife + kid. In my twenties, programming was exciting and cool. In my thirties I view myself as a powerless slave doing tasks out of a never ending backlog. Been at my job for 7 years and don't have the willpower to LeetCode. Even if I were to land a FANG I don't think I'd want the workload that comes with it. Fantasize about retirement on a daily basis. My dream is to have a cabin somewhere at the base of a mountain and to never touch a computer again.