I send their comment through ChatGPT, then paste is as an example in the response. "Please use ChatGPT, this is an example of what your comment would look like..."
As a reddit mod of a tiny community I've very recently started to suggest users use ChatGPT to re-word their comments and submissions when their phrasing is inflammatory. Any point worth making is worth making well. It is still early stages, so I'm not sure how effective it will be.
I've noticed that ChatGPT can do a decent job rewording an angry message to be less toxic while drawing out the salient points. The output it produces a little stiff or stuffy, but I find that preferable to "authentic" toxic messages.
As a mod I find that removals have less sting when you provide the user with an alternative path forward to get what they want. When a removal isn't just a "wall of no", it feels less like a personal rejection. ChatGPT offers a path around that "wall of no" for users by a) showing them what the right way to make their comment is and b) gives them a path/tool to getting there nearly every time.
The big "mostly women" subreddit I'll miss, despite being a guy, is the /r/RomanceBooks subreddit. It is hands down the best book community on reddit. At least as far as community and moderation goes. It sounds like the mods don't think the alternatives are technologically mature enough.