The first part is important to signal that you aren't just trying to find people to work with, but that you also want to join up in a culture war, and a culture war requires promoting ideas to hate instead of letting them fade away.
Imagine how it would look if they wrote "no pushovers or girly-girls, please"
But still, the thumbs are probably the least "handed" element of the body. I mix right and left thumb use based on whatever I need to be doing with my other hand.
Not to disparage your suffering at all, but jail isn't always so much better.
> you broke a written rule and you spend some time for it.
Not true. Jail is for people accused of breaking rules, not convicted. And arrests are severely biased against certain subpopulations.
> The judge gives you rules and you follow them and you get out.
which generally involve sitting in jail because you can't afford bail, with a nontrivial chance of losing your job due to absence, then losing your home due to poverty.
Don't argue which injustice is worse. Fight the injustice.
Interesting that your aunt cared for their mother for 30 years, drawing a small compensation rate, and your mother just took an interest in grandmother's care decades later when her inheritance started to dwindle.