Seriously though. I get financial stability is something a potential mate might want from a partner, but if that’s the only thing making them consider someone trying to court them, I see an unhappy marriage and divorce soon coming.
This lady sounds like a real piece of work. Communication is not in her vocabulary. She also has some Disney level over-romanticized perspective of love.
Consider getting in touch with your senator or representative [0] and also the FCC [1]. The recent changes we're seeing in other areas of the federal government give reason to stay a bit hopeful that the treatment of these kind of breaches don't stay the norm.
Lack of stewardship for folk's data should not just be the "cost of doing business".