If you WANT to do better, but are unable to, that's not laziness. Laziness, at least as I see it, is more like "I could do more, but I don't want to, so I won't."
I also don't think framing any difficulty as "being lazy" or "spoiled" is helpful, especially if you're directing that at yourself. Even if it were true (which sounds unlikely to me!) there's no actionable step to fix being lazy, so it's worth ruling out the other potential causes before you write yourself off like that.
So the useful thing to do, and the one that is most kind to yourself, is assume you are not just lazy. You are having some kind of struggle, but let's take "lazy" off the table for now.
Others here have mentioned ADHD, anxiety, burnout, sleep apnea, or depression. These can definitely all lead to the kinds of symptoms you're experiencing, and it's worth talking to a doctor and a therapist to figure out what could be causing this.
I'm in the same boat here, was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 28 and realized pretty fast after that I had been self-medicating with massive amounts of coffee. Was up to 8-10 shots espresso a day when I was diagnosed. I was jittery and having problems sleeping, but could only focus as long as I continually ramped up on the caffeine.
Adderall has made a big difference for me- I've gradually cut the caffeine to a 2 tiny coffees a day and my focus is way better than when I was drinking latte after latte. No issues with ramping up either, it's been a couple years and I'm still on basically the same dosage of adderall.
There can be statistical differences on average, without requiring that every brain is unambiguously classifiable as "male" or "female" on a biological level based on that trait.
For example- if a drug works well for 80% of women and 15% of men, that implies that there are some men whose brains utilize the "female" pain pathway and some women who use the "male" pain pathway. It also suggests that that drug might be a good first line of treatment for female patients and a secondary or tertiary line of treatment for male patients. Trying to classify brains like this is like trying to classify sex based on height- on average it sort of works, but there's enough overlap between the heights of women and men that you can't actually do it reliably on an individual level.
So tl;dr I don't think that "clear biological differences between the male and female brains" is actually a reasonable conclusion that can be drawn from this research.
I really feel this. This article felt almost like a "duh" moment to me, but I realize not everyone has the same experience as me.
I went to an "elite" college (Northwestern University- thought about hiding the name, but really this says more about them than it does about me). I could easily have gone hungry if the cards had played out a little differently. (Friends would sneak me food from the dining hall when I couldn't get enough meals to sustain me, which got me through the worst of it, so I never actually missed more than a meal here or there)
If there was a way to get free tickets to anything, as in the school in the article, I never heard about it. Like the students in this article, I didn't knew what office hours were for until later. Oh, and I was charged to apply for financial aid, because they required an application that cost $20 in addition to the FAFSA. That year I had to beg my aunt for $20 or I wouldn't have been able to apply for financial aid for the next year. Navigating the system to get financial aid was a battle every year.
I graduated a few years ago, make good money now, and honestly I don't think I'll ever donate money to NU after the experiences I had there. Sure, they let me in and gave me need-based-aid - but they sure didn't do anything else to help me succeed. Saying that elite colleges make low-income students "feel unwelcome" is an understatement.
I also don't think framing any difficulty as "being lazy" or "spoiled" is helpful, especially if you're directing that at yourself. Even if it were true (which sounds unlikely to me!) there's no actionable step to fix being lazy, so it's worth ruling out the other potential causes before you write yourself off like that.
So the useful thing to do, and the one that is most kind to yourself, is assume you are not just lazy. You are having some kind of struggle, but let's take "lazy" off the table for now.
Others here have mentioned ADHD, anxiety, burnout, sleep apnea, or depression. These can definitely all lead to the kinds of symptoms you're experiencing, and it's worth talking to a doctor and a therapist to figure out what could be causing this.