agreed, but what would you argue are the reasons for this mindset? i imagine the main cause is structural, ie. having to deal with all the member states?
two thoughts i try to hold on to, when my pre-loss anxiety takes over:
1) it's worse worse when parents have to bury their children (than vice versa).
2) there is sadness to having to say goodbye, but sadness is a beautiful thing. it is a different way to celebrate the love you had.