4. Have these women adjust their expectations. How many dozens or hundreds of men have they rejected that would have been perfectly acceptable fathers?
I do think it can be especially hard in this industry, being male-dominated, with less social interaction, and not masculine in any traditional sense. I think of careers as containers, or vases, that we eventually grow to fit. Some vases are particularly odd-shaped and hard for potential partners to evaluate.
Even with 10% of that you can permanently change dozens of lives. Go travel, like has been suggested, and make it your mission to integrate yourself into the local environment, find the overlooked silently suffering, and use what you were given to do something positive in this world.
That may be true in the cases presented. However the point is that 63% of men in their 20s experience some version of this story. Substantially over half of that population and it continues to increase. Surely such a phenomenon and its implications are worth discussing further?
I once took an Uber and got into a conversation with the driver. He told me that he used to work in tech but was currently unemployed and struggling to find work. I told him that I experienced the same thing recently but found a contract job (eg, Infosys/Cognizant/etc) by actually answering the fly-by-night recruiter spam emails.
Yeah it wasn’t the best but it paid the bills. I told him I was confident that he could find a similar job instead of driving for Uber. His response was totally dismissive “I don’t want a contract job, I want to be a full time employee.” Sometimes beggars can’t be choosers.