Seeking advice about relocating
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You haven't presented even the tiniest reason to move. Why are you even considering it?
You like your city, job, AND company. Yes, your company might change in a few years, but you'll still have options then. You'll be able to freelance at the very least. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.
You've said that your combined income would likely decrease if you left. That's a big deal, especially considering cost-of-living in NYC or SF is likely double what you pay now.
The startup world isn't a good fit for someone who needs to be as risk-averse as you, especially in SF. You need to have a plan for retirement and your children's colleges. You can't go bankrupt. In SF or NYC, you'd either have to rent (and burn a bunch of money) or buy a place that would also add a huge mortgage on top of your other expenses.
There are many small-to-medium software companies in other, cheaper cities. If you really want to jump ship, check out Houston, Nashville, Atlanta, Pittsburgh, and Charlotte. There are probably more that I'm missing. Obviously you need to filter for the kind of lifestyle/culture that you want.
Get your resume in the hands of some recruiters and see what turns up.
You like your city, job, AND company. Yes, your company might change in a few years, but you'll still have options then. You'll be able to freelance at the very least. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.
You've said that your combined income would likely decrease if you left. That's a big deal, especially considering cost-of-living in NYC or SF is likely double what you pay now.
The startup world isn't a good fit for someone who needs to be as risk-averse as you, especially in SF. You need to have a plan for retirement and your children's colleges. You can't go bankrupt. In SF or NYC, you'd either have to rent (and burn a bunch of money) or buy a place that would also add a huge mortgage on top of your other expenses.
There are many small-to-medium software companies in other, cheaper cities. If you really want to jump ship, check out Houston, Nashville, Atlanta, Pittsburgh, and Charlotte. There are probably more that I'm missing. Obviously you need to filter for the kind of lifestyle/culture that you want.
Get your resume in the hands of some recruiters and see what turns up.
Single reason - that it would be a great growth experience and maybe give me career options down the road. Thank you!
Sounds like you've got a "grass-is-greener" thing going on. Everything is good where you're at, but you feel you're missing something. I've felt that way.
Go take a few interviews, and spend a few days in the Valley. Be sure to drive...at rush hour... price a few houses/apartments...
If you're anything like me - who is also in a medium-large (well, a college town just outside of) midwestern city that's highly rated for being a great place to live, with kids, wife with amazing job, etc. - interviewing and spending a little time there quickly clears up the grass-is-greener syndrome.
Go take a few interviews, and spend a few days in the Valley. Be sure to drive...at rush hour... price a few houses/apartments...
If you're anything like me - who is also in a medium-large (well, a college town just outside of) midwestern city that's highly rated for being a great place to live, with kids, wife with amazing job, etc. - interviewing and spending a little time there quickly clears up the grass-is-greener syndrome.
Definitely - great advice. I've been out, had a good experience interviewing, but declined offers for those reasons. But still, I'm feeling like doing a few years for some big names might give me more options and flexibility in the long run.
I've been considering a Bay Area relocation for many of the same reasons as you. I've been working remotely with great success but the pull of swinging for the fences in the Bay Area continues to tempt me.
However I'm still going back and forth (and like you losing some sleep over it). The cost of living is really astronomical in every respect, and I'm not entirely convinced that trading all my financial security is going to work out well for the family.
That being said, I've enjoyed a lot of success working remotely for the past 3 years, so if I decide not to move, I will just continue to do that.
Feel free to email me if you have any specific questions/concerns and want to discuss further. My email is in my profile.
However I'm still going back and forth (and like you losing some sleep over it). The cost of living is really astronomical in every respect, and I'm not entirely convinced that trading all my financial security is going to work out well for the family.
That being said, I've enjoyed a lot of success working remotely for the past 3 years, so if I decide not to move, I will just continue to do that.
Feel free to email me if you have any specific questions/concerns and want to discuss further. My email is in my profile.
Thanks!
just make sure you have some money set aside for sudden loss of job, and use your time for finding a new job in your area. After all, you're in a big city so the jobs are there for sure.
Yes. This. We have a cushion (although a larger one would be better). There aren't a lot of comparable options here. Most of the jobs here are limited, being a step back in pay and either experience or benefits. I'm half-heartedly looking for remote work.
Reasons I haven’t made the move: 1. My son has a serious health condition. It will likely require a major surgery in the near future (3-6 months). We have great insurance and get great care from a well-respected hospital 20 minutes from our home. 2. My wife’s job is great, but it’s tied to the area. Financially, any increase in salary I might make out there, wouldn’t make up for the loss of my wife’s income and the increased cost of living. Longer term, her earning potential much greater than mine. 3. I love where I live. I grew up near NYC. I’m doubtful I would enjoy the same standard of living & quality of life I enjoy here, there.
I feel like I have some options here for the next few years, but I’m losing sleep over it now. What would you do in my situation?