It is just a fact of our protective psychological human makeup that we all have fragile egos and energy conservation always on. That will make us insensitive and upset with others (we respond rudely), and keeps us safe by not wasting energy on unimportant things (we don't submit).
Both you as the submitter who doesn't want to deal with the comments, and the person who is complaining back (and to be sensitive myself, I try to remember they may not be conscious of it) are both dealing with that.
For example, think about your job, and how often did you just let things go because you had to 'pick your battles' or even 'just too tired to deal with that'. Bosses do it too. This is human nature.
Answer: Retirement. Kind of kidding - kind of not! Some will be thinking this though...
Jokes aside - it can be tough. I recommend if you have not already done a reverse time based analysis, you do so. If you're wondering this at 40, what about 60? Think about where you want to be and how you will be perceived going forward, combined. That will help guide some of what you do with an eye towards your longevity.
Anyway, at 40 there is a high expectation to support and mentor - first and foremost. Help people see their bugs, secondarily improve their methods, and thirdly listen to their ideas to help you paint their strategy (rather than your own interpretations and strategies which may be dated).
Second, younger people may see you as the older guy with the stodgy ideas. Avoid fighting with them on that front, even though your role may ask for that. You are in a losing battle often with that up front, unless your upper management really supports your ideas. And even then be careful to be respectful - you may change your mind after some research and find you support their initially backward sounding idea.
I recommend supporting and contributing to your coworkers projects to highlight your solution methods, and show them you care. You probably have a lot of good to offer, and this will defray any potential hostility.
My further response, distanced from what I feel sure is a good analysis (to save my points).
This is a good convincer - but there is a lot of hyperbole, political theft, and outright exaggerations being painted out there; not to mention previous abuse of the scientific method to push extreme claims in previous papers. These things hurt the cause.
And further, putting people into a bucket of trolls when they are only looking for information does the same thing. Why would healthy people open to debate do that? And on Hacker News?
You have convinced me further; I am more open minded. And I will look for more ways I can justify supporting this conclusion to be sure; but I can't put everything behind such a negatively based bias and effort to convince me. There are too many charlatans to jump in with both feet and too much at risk with blind support.
The most recent estimates suggest that at times between 5.2 and 2.6 million years ago (during the Pliocene), the carbon dioxide concentrations in the atmosphere reached between 330 and 400 ppm. During those periods, global temperatures were 2-3°C higher than now, and sea levels were higher than now by 10 – 25 metres.
And the following:
Atmospheric CO2 is currently at a level of 390 ppm.
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So I take this to mean, it has not been seen before naturally - the current levels of atmospheric carbon dioxide - and a non-associated temperature change (and the associated sea level rise - which I personally would expect should rise in the event of any rising temperatures - I don't need evidence that ice melts at higher temps).
I take this inability to prove that to mean further it is hard to observe the change temperatures in short time frames (think annually), but we can expect it would happen over time with our associated CO2 level, or we may be already in the middle of it and not know it.
Meaning the associated problems (a significant rollover type of change) may occur in the generational terms (100 years).
Do I have the gist of the main thrust?
If so - then the logical conclusion being presented, is that the line is so fine - we may cross it without knowing it.
Wish I knew why that is the ultimate mistake - are those people really viewed that negatively - to be the ultimate trolls? You'll never get anywhere convincing people you think of like that I would estimate.
(Dissapointed you used your junk account but I can't blame you...) I was wrong here kasey.
A chart showing we have exceeded routinely previous highs over human existing history would be pretty convincing. And not on a human recorded scale (300 years), nor a geolgical scale (earth is around 4 billion years), but a homo sapien scale (2 million years).
You could use rocks, plant life, animal life as evidence and anything else that would logically chart it.
patrickg_zill - this place, since the election, has become a hotbed of downvotes for any rebuttal discussion around climate change and any new thing the US Democratic party suggests (i.e 'forced' time off for men during womens pregnancy - see my comments history for more).
Keep seeing your therapist along this journey - it will help you 'take a time out' to think about your situation and validate your progress.
1. Break your fall.
Depression, and any 'invisible' illness, are highly distracting. Like trying to getting an A while getting electric shocks during every class and study. It can be done (not by me, but by some I guess) but it is really really hard. You'll miss obvious problems, solutions, and obvious signs that act as cues at other times. You need to turn down the voltage a bit.
First, quick fixes. These are antidepressants. They are a good temporary measure but not more than 3 maybe 6 months. Depression kills all forward progress, and antidepressants can release some of this pressure temporarily - freeing you to begin moving to long term solutions. That is really all antidepressants are good for.
2. Find out-of-the-box effective solutions to your depression - immediately.
First, I have been helped by western herbals (St. John's Wort is proven long term effective but takes time to get going), ayurvedic Indian herbal treatments (start with Ashwagandha), Chinese herbs, gut related bacteria and probiotics (strong ones like kombucha every day - not gentle 'nudges' like yogurt).
Focus on the medicine vs the doctor/treatment. Dr visits can take a month or more and are expensive - your health can't wait. Focus on the herbs themselves vs visiting the ayurvedic practitioner, acupuncturist, or Chinese Herbalist. Via the internet, I stole bits and pieces of the most effective treatments in non-western medicine and cobbled together my own solutions.
Second, Yoga exercise routines, and add the Yoga mindfulness stuff later if you can (but at least the exercise routines). You must do this. Yoga is proven and will help you - but you can't stop there (and will find it hard to start if you have not broken your fall yet). Exercise and treatment must always be combined.
Third, mindfulness. Know you will make it through. You may not know how yet, but you will make it. Fake it 'til you make it is a proven strategy - but not enough alone.
3. If you do not have the ability to share your focus with your job (balancing your health treatment and your job) get a quick fix (antidepressant) going right away to 'turn down the voltage'. And let whatever happens to you job - happen. Panic and anxiety about a job you may be losing is waste of your very precious and limited resources (you may even find your wrong about your fears!).
Remember your solution order -
1. Break you fall (quick fix) and turn down the voltage a little.
2. Come up with long term solutions/strategies to turn it down a lot, and keep it down.
3. And finally - focus on your job last. Your good health will do much more for your job and life than your very best but highly distracted efforts can ever do.
Best of luck - I will be watching for your updates.
You have a chronic problem - you must treat it like one.
In my job, I am cleaning up (maybe more like 95% throwing out than cleaning up) some 30 year old equipment pileup across 4 separate server rooms. Ancient workstations and servers, such as Sun SPARC's, SGI's, Sun Oracles, HP-UX, AIX, and even a mainframe or 2 that have sat turned on and running an OS and networked (so respond to ping), but are actually lying dormant, stuffed in a closed door rack and networked in (often with long forgotten passwords).
This tool was something I wished I had (and searched all over for) to quickly catalog the approximate age of each responding ping. I could use this to further say hey this set is 1-10, this one 10-20 yrs old, and the last set 20-30. I can safely de-rack the 10-30 now, and work on rooting in to the remaining 1-10 yr systems over time. Instead, I have to root one rack at a time, and guess/research at many of the ages of the systems, which increased the work significantly.
Why? A good question. Research scientists and interns deployed them for projects. And when the project was done, a research scientist doesn't want to lose valuable research data. Since they are paid for, why not just leave them up. That, and the old sysadmin just retired - think of The Bastard Operator From Hell, but in real life, 20 years on.
I know for a fact pregnancy is hard on the body - my experience was nearly 12hrs delivery and my wife was in the ICU for 3 days following. It took months to recover completely.
In your rush to defend your personal 'stereotype'; I hope you understand that being able to message clients from the delivery room is unusual. No matter what your intent in saying this, never underestimate the serious nature of childbirth.
I see your meaning clearly now - but your point then is obviously tangential.
To your argument I also personally don't know there is any reliable way to equalize this problem. Men and women are created differently, and nature is unfair - just ask the fly and the spider. The social contract means we so far mostly anyway agree it is better treat equally than to force equality (shades of Bergeron is poignant - and yes this inches us closer).
I think the primary point of the article is that this flexible planning is not functioning as an equalizer in the workplace (Title: Want Equality? Make New Dads Stay Home...) and that it could, and should. To turn it into more direct phrasing; a woman has to take a significant chunk of time off during a pregnancy by virtue of the condition, and this has a net effect on her career.
When a woman takes off for pregnancy it is known up front it is for several months, and she is also indisposed during that time (can't answer questions or take quick phone calls, because she is not able to perform at peak levels while convalescing). So an employer accounts for the loss of that duty in different ways such as shifting responsibilities. And many of these ways become a limit to career success. Imagine she is closing a large sales deal but has to leave before close due to pregnancy - so she is no longer the clear performer in that sale, as it is closed by someone else. This reduces her effectiveness on paper (becomes a detractor) due to gender differences (becomes unequal).
A man has been given flexibility to give and take that same time in a way that permits some juggling of work and family supporting efforts - i.e your example case. You worked part time, she could really not do that in her case. This lets you stay active in your role (little effect on your responsibilities) when she could not.
I get the feeling that droughts have happened before, are happening now, and will happen again; and we are just not able as humans to control the climate.
In fact I found this study that proves that history does repeat.
Thankfully, due to technological advancement though - it is nowhere near as damaging as it once was - in fact now these are barely a blip on the radar on human life. In times past, it is easy to forget that a simple drought halted all commerce, caused great famines, and without transportation and local food sources available, people were dying.
Just take a look at the history and see the trend lines for the evidence of improvement that advancements like electricity and internal combustion have given us:
Though I agree with your principle (ie this is not a complete analysis), in the authors defense it is accurately titled "African palm oil expansion is bad news for the continent’s primates."
Had it been titled "An analysis of the impacts of African palm oil expansion", your argument would have been poignant.
- For example, jammers can: prevent your Wi-Fi enabled device from connecting to the Internet
- A jammer can block all radio communications on any device that operates on radio frequencies within its range (i.e., within a certain radius of the jammer) by emitting radio frequency waves that prevent the targeted device from establishing or maintaining a connection.
And more is in there. Judging by these definitions the FCC believe they have a pretty wide reach:
- Any device that jams or disrupts cell phone calls, text messages, or other wireless communications by emitting an interfering radio frequency signal is illegal
As you stated, the courts would have the final say.
I guess with a 'Monetary Forfeiture' being the punishment I have to retract my suggestion. You are better off breaking it with a rock, spear, or a shot-put!