I haven't seen anyone here put together, why women are so picky with online dating. I admit that it's easy to say "well, because they can, d'uh", but that is not what I see when I talk to women about dating men.
When men complain about bad matches, what they usually mean is that the woman turned out to be boring or not as good looking, hell maybe she even had a kid that she never mentioned.
I hardly hear women complain about that. What I hear is that they didn't want to go on a date or maybe wanted to leave one and in response got insults, threats of violence/murder, maybe even someone trying to get handsy if they actually met in meatspace.
So the minor factor of "if a woman dates too many men, she's a slut" aside, if women are not picky, they are in danger of getting physically assaulted. If they just reply nicely online and don't agree to a first date, they "only" risk getting insulted and threatened. And having someone stalk you because you rejected them on Tinder doesn't happen often, but it happens.
So why on earth would they not be picky? What is their incentive to be open to opportunities? Of course they wait until they have strong indicators that this guy might be the right one or is at least worth the risk.
The image of a single woman floating in this sea of open opportunities that I see here is very romantic. Sadly most of them feel like taking a swim in a pond full of piranhas because they were promised, one of them is a cursed prince.
Edit: Reading this again, I should mention, that I am aware that not every man responds violently to rejection. I am aware of that. Sadly, it's not single cases only either and a minority here is enough to make the situation scary.
When men complain about bad matches, what they usually mean is that the woman turned out to be boring or not as good looking, hell maybe she even had a kid that she never mentioned.
I hardly hear women complain about that. What I hear is that they didn't want to go on a date or maybe wanted to leave one and in response got insults, threats of violence/murder, maybe even someone trying to get handsy if they actually met in meatspace.
So the minor factor of "if a woman dates too many men, she's a slut" aside, if women are not picky, they are in danger of getting physically assaulted. If they just reply nicely online and don't agree to a first date, they "only" risk getting insulted and threatened. And having someone stalk you because you rejected them on Tinder doesn't happen often, but it happens.
So why on earth would they not be picky? What is their incentive to be open to opportunities? Of course they wait until they have strong indicators that this guy might be the right one or is at least worth the risk.
The image of a single woman floating in this sea of open opportunities that I see here is very romantic. Sadly most of them feel like taking a swim in a pond full of piranhas because they were promised, one of them is a cursed prince.
Edit: Reading this again, I should mention, that I am aware that not every man responds violently to rejection. I am aware of that. Sadly, it's not single cases only either and a minority here is enough to make the situation scary.