I used to be very depressed. And then I tried all kinds of different ways to get better. Exercising. Eating different. Sleeping more. Various self help techniques. Volunteering etc.
Then I tried getting a job and that forced me to meet a lot of new people, challenges, develop new skills. And it sucked and I smelled like a kitchen.
Didn’t solve my depression.
I didn’t meet anyone I identified with until I was like 33, when I joined a high tech company where I interacted with a lot of very creative and talented people. Then I realized I was actually very unique and the people I got along with were extremely rare.
Later, I also realized after significant research that I was high on the Asperger’s type spectrum plus ADHD.I learned I have to seek out very complex and varied situations which were challenging and highly stimulating.
Suspect this guy is wasting away because he may be similar and just bored completely out of his mind. Unfortunately, life does not help you much.
If you feel happy programming in isolation or whatever, there is no one to kick you in the ass and make you leave your house and do things you don’t want to do. And maybe accidentally meet new people…maybe.
More and more it feels like you have to create some completely custom lifestyle, maybe travel to conferences, music and events or do something risky.
If you made the mistake of buying a house in some super boring location with nothing going on, and in a location where very creative, intelligent, talented and motivated people hang out - you end up like this guy.
I can’t judge, I have been there several times.
I realized: “you know what, I am not happy because I need to be optimistic or exercise or whatever…my life literally sucks, I have no friends and I have no idea how to fix it.”
If you are in that situation, you might need to spend six months or more getting out of it, move somewhere better, switch careers, get new skills, take risks. No amount of creative writing gets you out of there.
Then I tried getting a job and that forced me to meet a lot of new people, challenges, develop new skills. And it sucked and I smelled like a kitchen.
Didn’t solve my depression.
I didn’t meet anyone I identified with until I was like 33, when I joined a high tech company where I interacted with a lot of very creative and talented people. Then I realized I was actually very unique and the people I got along with were extremely rare.
Later, I also realized after significant research that I was high on the Asperger’s type spectrum plus ADHD.I learned I have to seek out very complex and varied situations which were challenging and highly stimulating.
Suspect this guy is wasting away because he may be similar and just bored completely out of his mind. Unfortunately, life does not help you much.
If you feel happy programming in isolation or whatever, there is no one to kick you in the ass and make you leave your house and do things you don’t want to do. And maybe accidentally meet new people…maybe.
More and more it feels like you have to create some completely custom lifestyle, maybe travel to conferences, music and events or do something risky.
If you made the mistake of buying a house in some super boring location with nothing going on, and in a location where very creative, intelligent, talented and motivated people hang out - you end up like this guy.
I can’t judge, I have been there several times.
I realized: “you know what, I am not happy because I need to be optimistic or exercise or whatever…my life literally sucks, I have no friends and I have no idea how to fix it.”
If you are in that situation, you might need to spend six months or more getting out of it, move somewhere better, switch careers, get new skills, take risks. No amount of creative writing gets you out of there.