"Because of my experiences growing up, I have triggers. This means that I’m always scanning for danger; for situations that seem like something from the past that could hurt me. When I recognize something that matches, I can overreact and feel intense fear, anger or anxiety. "
Well that pretty much sums it all up, doesn't it? The young lady has issues.
Why don't you get all the facts before making a jackass out of yourself. I see yu have at least realized that SendGrid was not HIS employer before you, too tuned into "Joan of Arc". The SendGrid CEO terminated her quickly and fir the right reasons. So...if you see him in a booth, offer to buy him a beer.