Seems like you’re taking an approach of - things are happening to me, instead of things are happening for me. This view closes off numerous possibilities and opportunities. It’s a vicious cycle where you keep reinforcing your beliefs instead of looking at how you can do things differently. Try to take a alternate perspective on what is happening in your life. Ask yourself, this thing that is happening, what opportunities is it creating for me? Think about these things from a different perspective than you currently hold and keep challenging yourself to do so, even in “good times”.