I'm not great at this either, but have been getting better by --
* I have a separate virtual desktop with only my note taking tool (always open). Copy/paste or use a plug-in to feed anything interesting to note taking app / tag it. I use Roam Research (allows bidirectional linking, but you can use anything).
* I often use the "5 whys" technique as a BS detector as I manage my team. I do that with myself too lately and find it quickly tells me when my understanding bottoms out (often by the third "why")
* I have been using a voice memo app to talk to myself when outside. I form narratives better when I speak (out loud) and retain information much better than when I write (though writing is better than nothing or "saying it in your head")
I find this article incredibly frustrating, and likely written by a person who hasn't run any org, much less a large one -- I believe they said they were called in as a senior IC into calibration, if I understood correctly
Calibrations are typically not a race to the bottom with every manager trying to bring down their own (or others') people. In fact, the game theory / incentive structure promotes inflation, which is precisely why we need constructive feedback / negatives from peers and upward
0] Managers generally like their people and want to see them succeed
1] If you're cynical enough to believe that 0 isn't true, fine (though I'm sorry for your struggle)... Managers look good when their people look good & are promoted.
2] Managers don't want to bring other people's managers down because it prevents retaliation (see 0 and 1)
3] This leads to grade inflation
4] The curve exists to avoid this
5] Peer feedback exists to open discussions on patterns, not on individual occurrences. If enough people notice X or variations of X, X is probably true
6] Not sharing X means that the person most likely will never get the feedback and never improve (rarely do people care enough to have the uncomfortable convo F2F)
* I have a separate virtual desktop with only my note taking tool (always open). Copy/paste or use a plug-in to feed anything interesting to note taking app / tag it. I use Roam Research (allows bidirectional linking, but you can use anything).
* I often use the "5 whys" technique as a BS detector as I manage my team. I do that with myself too lately and find it quickly tells me when my understanding bottoms out (often by the third "why")
* I have been using a voice memo app to talk to myself when outside. I form narratives better when I speak (out loud) and retain information much better than when I write (though writing is better than nothing or "saying it in your head")