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·14 tahun yang lalu·discuss
FWIW I think every parent does indeed say "never again". Then in a couple of years they forget they ever felt that.
mibbitier
·14 tahun yang lalu·discuss
> "Having parents who are burnt out, resentful martyrs does not help a kid."

Completely agree. But that as you say is not putting the kids first.

Putting the kids first means that you will leave them to throw tantrums when you need to, or leave them with someone else so they develop in that way.

Giving kids what they want != putting them first.
mibbitier
·14 tahun yang lalu·discuss
You shouldn't. If you don't feel the overwhelming need to have children, you probably shouldn't.

I wanted to have children from when I was about 10. I knew that it would be the most important thing I was to do with my life, and that's how it's turned out.

FWIW I don't know a single parent who would say that it's not absolutely awesome to be a parent. Maybe I don't know many bad parents...
mibbitier
·14 tahun yang lalu·discuss
> "And marriage can only be good if the parents know and acknowledge that they together go first, kids come second. Period."

That's a terribly sad outlook. Your children are extensions of yourself. They should come first forever. They're not pets that you just take in and look after. They're your babies...

I don't know if you have kids or not, maybe you don't have very strong parental feelings :/
mibbitier
·14 tahun yang lalu·discuss
Virgins probably also don't see what the big deal about having sex is. They've probably heard horror stories about it.

Being a father/mother is simply the best thing you can do with your life (Unless you hate kids, or are too "grown up").