Yeah, this one was the one that made me buy her book. Huberman is a little much for me, but he does a great interview with her. He leaves a huge topic out -- wanted to examine his own workaholism -- but she's terrific.
Anna Lembke’s “Dopamine Nation” has a lot of interesting takes on the subject. One takeaway I got is that dopamine seeks a balance. Opting for pleasure seeking often ends up getting experienced as pain. An example of that is drug tolerance. Oddly, the reverse is also true: seeking pain can often lead to an experience of pleasure. The invigorated feeling after a cold shower, or how hard exercise leads to highs.
She is a great podcast guest, too. Her approach - that the people with the strongest addictions can tell us a lot about how we seek pleasure - has a lot of depth to it.
> I replied, "I am worth what someone will pay me for my skills. It's not just salary but benefits as well. I would expect this position described to me has a significant budget."
That's a good answer
> "..Typically equipment purchases come out of the technician's budget."
Nonsense. Not if you have auditors. I'd have walked out of here long before this. They don't grasp the iron triangle.
It's also frustrating because some of these are a tiny amount of effort (take the stairs) and some are huge daunting changes in your life that will give you nonstop anxiety (what you do on your bad days is more important than what you do on your good days).
Cam girls use it as an upsell, sending dirty pics and sexting. It's great for that sort of flirty business because of the lack of persistence. No receipts.