Couldn't the "show of hands" just be genuine interest in knowing about your audience? For example say you give a speech on a similar topic once a year and ask for a show of hands; you can see how responses change over the years. You can even share this with the audience as an interesting side note. "When I used to give these talks 5 years ago almost nobody raised their hands, now it's almost all of you" or whatever the case.
Tomato is really simple and stable but supports fewer devices. OpenWrt has more of a general purpose embedded Linux feel and lots of people build cool Wi-Fi enabled electronics projects with it (for examples: http://hackaday.com/tag/openwrt). I've never personally used DD-WRT.
It's not just that you're "not ready" to commit. If it really is a 10 year idea as you believe, that's a huge risk and opportunity cost especially since the quality of the idea often doesn't determine success but rather the execution, the competition, and "luck" (aka. the tons of tiny little factors you can't plan for).
I commend you for not committing to such a huge idea. You need to start with something way smaller, probably fail, learn from it, start again, fail, learn, fail,... succeed (maybe).
They use p2p file sharing more and watch more videos. That makes sense. When I'm feeling depressed I tend to watch lots and lots of TV. But then I get more depressed because I'm wasting my time watching TV. It's like a drug, the cure becomes the cause.
I know what you mean. It's kind of like when people pick out one thing you say and then spend the rest of the time formulating their response / waiting for their turn to speak and miss the rest of what you're saying. The conversation can turn out very tangential that way if they're bouncing off a very small piece of the surface of your overall point instead of the main meat of it.
Yeah, it's interesting how technology often takes around 20 years from invention to reaching the market place. (Perhaps not so) coincidentally 20 years is also the period of a United States patent.