I created this account so that I can share my experience.
TLDR: check out Dr. Aziz on YouTube.
I am 40+ and happily married. But it was a long road to happiness. It is easy to suggest things but almost impossible for people to understand where you are coming from.
I was shy in college but then I discovered alcohol, this allowed me to have fake success with opposite sex. When semi drunk I was confident and would start dancing with anyone. That led to a few wonderful nights and friendships. But when not drinking I was nervous wreck around beautiful girls.
And I was hooking up with girls that had nothing in common. There was no way to maintain relationship in long term. And I would have crush on one girl but would be able to talk to her, sober or drunk. I would see her hookup with asshole friends of me. They would describe women they hookup with in such degrading terms that it would literally make me cry.
This is when pick up artist book came out, and I learned about “oneietis”. Basically, I realized I was getting obsessed and it was not healthy. I am not endorsing pick up artist culture, It is ugly. But it helped me get better at being more confident. I joined some shady group of losers like me. But we would push each other to go talk to women, in all kind of places, bars, malls, etc. some of us got really good. Most of us were just simple nerds and they found love of their lives. Some of us were assholes who used these techniques to hookup. It was very sad but I built confidence.
Eventually, I realized they key to be interesting. And to be interesting you need to be interested. I was no longer feeling alone. So I was actually pursuing my interests. I learned Rick climbing, scuba diving, started other hobbies. And I was confident to talk about them. That’s how I met a girl who end up my life partner.
Now I am older but I am still shy. It hinders my work. This is how I discovered Dr. Aziz. His videos help me overcome issues at work. I think he will help overcome social anxiety, so you don’t have to join shady world of the pick up artists.
TLDR: check out Dr. Aziz on YouTube.
I am 40+ and happily married. But it was a long road to happiness. It is easy to suggest things but almost impossible for people to understand where you are coming from.
I was shy in college but then I discovered alcohol, this allowed me to have fake success with opposite sex. When semi drunk I was confident and would start dancing with anyone. That led to a few wonderful nights and friendships. But when not drinking I was nervous wreck around beautiful girls.
And I was hooking up with girls that had nothing in common. There was no way to maintain relationship in long term. And I would have crush on one girl but would be able to talk to her, sober or drunk. I would see her hookup with asshole friends of me. They would describe women they hookup with in such degrading terms that it would literally make me cry.
This is when pick up artist book came out, and I learned about “oneietis”. Basically, I realized I was getting obsessed and it was not healthy. I am not endorsing pick up artist culture, It is ugly. But it helped me get better at being more confident. I joined some shady group of losers like me. But we would push each other to go talk to women, in all kind of places, bars, malls, etc. some of us got really good. Most of us were just simple nerds and they found love of their lives. Some of us were assholes who used these techniques to hookup. It was very sad but I built confidence.
Eventually, I realized they key to be interesting. And to be interesting you need to be interested. I was no longer feeling alone. So I was actually pursuing my interests. I learned Rick climbing, scuba diving, started other hobbies. And I was confident to talk about them. That’s how I met a girl who end up my life partner.
Now I am older but I am still shy. It hinders my work. This is how I discovered Dr. Aziz. His videos help me overcome issues at work. I think he will help overcome social anxiety, so you don’t have to join shady world of the pick up artists.