And they I told you to go ahead and expand your horizons by learning about Chinese culture so that you wouldn't feel "left out". Are you seriously arguing this or are you trolling?
It has been my experience as well that being a white guy means the other person - being a bully for the most part - feels that they can talk down on you endlessly with no consideration of your actual life experience.
I know a Japanese women who went to college in the states and had the opposite opinion so she moved back to Tokyo. I guess our experiences cancel one another out!