Ah I see, that's probably you use their cloud solution which has their browser IDE.... They too have a VSCode extension. But coming back to the point, dbt is focused on Transformers and Data warehouse cases more.... the use case I described didn't fit with dbt's solutioning....
dbt - code is done via VSCode and managed via git, Job Orchestration is done via Airflow or Dagster
Fivetran - its more of an ELT cloud hosted solution only, and not near real time cases.
Talend, Alteryx - Its a drag and drop first solution. Then comes IDE
My personal work experience - In my current job I was tasked to build dashboard platform which supports near real time sync. I've Postgres as main DB, Elastic search for dashboarding. Due to this near-real time requirement I had to choose a very niche library `pgsync`. Then immediately I rewrote the library again why because pgsync doesn't detect granular change and is tied to redis. Whereas I had rabbitmq as the middle layer for CDC.
A step back, looking at data engineers needs
1. Integrated Code IDE
2. Version Control, Permissions and stuff [For team collab]
3. Distributed Jobs management using remote agents
4. Choice of hosting in AWS, GCP or self-hosted
From business managers point of view:
1. A solution that solves the problem
2. Has a management lifecycle
3. Allows productivity and team collab