Ask HN: The biggest mistake you have ever made?

6 ポイント投稿者 URfejk4 年前6 コメント

6 コメント

Loved someone who, in the end, didn’t love me back. I was just an accessory in their life, and they ghosted me as soon as their circumstances changed. I had invested in the relationship at great cost to myself.

Love yourself. Set boundaries. Do no harm but take no shit. Blow toxic people out the door as soon as they reveal themselves. When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.

metadat4 年前

Keeping abusive / toxic people in my life. Nothing has opened the door to more happiness, fulfillment, and better things than learning to identify and remove them from my personal sphere.

Arrezz4 年前

How did you learn to identify such people? I think I have a hard time evaluating these things personally, I don't find anyone abusive/toxic. Maybe I'm just lucky?

metadat4 年前

I started with a book called "Safe People", a short, easy read which teaches both how to be a safe person and identify unsafe people and behaviors.

https://www.amazon.com/Safe-People-Relationships-Avoid-Those...

toomuchtodo4 年前

This is an excellent recommendation, thank you for putting it forth.

markus_zhang4 年前

In life? Wasting five years and didn't get a diploma at the end. Other than that, didn't ask father's friend to teach me game programming back in the 80s.