You don't need an easier job, you need to quit. An easier job will entice you to drink more and before you know it that easy job becomes hard. It's a vicious circle.
Many more people than those who admit it have a problem, but once you KNOW you have a problem there is only one solution: Quit.
Not for a week or a month, but for a year. If you can't do a year, you know you're _severely_ addicted. And severe addiction if it goes untreated will ALWAYS end in disaster or death.
Once you've done a year you will see how much of your happiness and resilience has returned and you don't want to go back. You might go back and fuck up again and then realize you have to quit for good, but that's a battle for another day.
Find help or check into a clinic if you can afford it. Groups helped me tremendously. See if you can find an English speaking one. It's not so much about people helping you with your problem. It's about sharing your experiences with people who won't judge you. You don't know what you're missing if you've never had it. Give it a chance.
Go and buy books. Some people swear by Allan Carr's Easy Way to Stop Drinking. I found his books to only help with smoking, but some prominent figures like his book on drinking too.
Get educated on the subject.
Most likely (99%) your brain hasn't experienced lasting damage YET. The damage you experience (trouble focusing and remembering) will heal over the next 1 - 7 years completely if you stop. Science has a pretty good idea of this apparently. (The drug has been around a long time)
So there are two messages here: Be glad you've identified the problem now. It's not too late to regain everything you want. BUT: If you change nothing you will succumb to the sauce and lose everything like millions and millions before you.
It's a dangerous, dangerous position to be in. Treat it accordingly and make solving that problem the Number 1 issue in your life.
"If I could describe my former mental illness in five words it would be this: thinking too much about myself."
This is an awful statement in so many ways.
If you're affected by mental illness please don't think that you're the problem. Or that it can be solved by thinking less about yourself. Even if it's the case, it's likely just a symptom, not the cause of your suffering.
You can get yourself out of depressive phases with repression and 'everything-is-awesome-actionism' but it will probably come back to haunt you. The depression wants to tell you something but you have to listen to it, not give it a pep-talk.
Maybe his ways are right for him. But almost every single point can have a detrimental effect on somebody with a mind that works differently.
I hate the way these articles tug on the part of yourself that already shames you anyway for not having 'figured it out'. Even if you know you shouldn't listen, you can't help but feel a little worse after reading it. At least that's the way it is for me. I don't even read this type of content anymore but I felt like I needed confirmation on why I avoid it. Boy did I get it.
Now that I've read it I need to articulate my thoughts and feelings to get it out of my system. It's not to be 'a hater' who wants the author to pay taxes.
I wish him all the best and hope that his house of cards doesn't come crashing down again.
Maybe these types of content creators are in kind of a pinch. Even if some part of him feels like he might do a disservice to certain people, he can't really write it out. It would be 'off-brand' to not write in absolutes and it would take away from the persona who knows it all. (Because despite saying he doesn't think he knows it all he comes off very much as someone who thinks he knows it all. 'Cheat codes'...)
But I'm pretty sure this type of content is more damaging than helpful to most people. You can't really 'teach' life. If you know a lot about a person and his circumstances you can point them towards options they haven't considered. But that's about it.
Most self-help is a scam. They sell dopamine. You feel good while reading it (if you believe in it) and making plans, but as soon as your brain is back to homeostasis you see that nothing has changed. I've seen it a dozen times in dozens of people.
The only good literature in self-help is the one that actually identifies a real problem that holds you back and helps you solve it. (Trauma, ADHD, bad relationships, stress for example)
You don't need an easier job, you need to quit. An easier job will entice you to drink more and before you know it that easy job becomes hard. It's a vicious circle.
Many more people than those who admit it have a problem, but once you KNOW you have a problem there is only one solution: Quit.
Not for a week or a month, but for a year. If you can't do a year, you know you're _severely_ addicted. And severe addiction if it goes untreated will ALWAYS end in disaster or death.
Once you've done a year you will see how much of your happiness and resilience has returned and you don't want to go back. You might go back and fuck up again and then realize you have to quit for good, but that's a battle for another day.
Find help or check into a clinic if you can afford it. Groups helped me tremendously. See if you can find an English speaking one. It's not so much about people helping you with your problem. It's about sharing your experiences with people who won't judge you. You don't know what you're missing if you've never had it. Give it a chance.
Go and buy books. Some people swear by Allan Carr's Easy Way to Stop Drinking. I found his books to only help with smoking, but some prominent figures like his book on drinking too.
Get educated on the subject.
Most likely (99%) your brain hasn't experienced lasting damage YET. The damage you experience (trouble focusing and remembering) will heal over the next 1 - 7 years completely if you stop. Science has a pretty good idea of this apparently. (The drug has been around a long time)
So there are two messages here: Be glad you've identified the problem now. It's not too late to regain everything you want. BUT: If you change nothing you will succumb to the sauce and lose everything like millions and millions before you.
It's a dangerous, dangerous position to be in. Treat it accordingly and make solving that problem the Number 1 issue in your life.