Do you have two or more kids?
I say it’s different. For people with more kids, a single child seems like a walk in the park.
Because in the worst case at least one parent is "free".
With two or more kids the default is being fully occupied or if one partner takes all of them for the other to have free time, it’s insanely draining and the other partner feels almost pressure to make the sacrifice worth it.
This of course being said about the situation without any parents around.
The step from two to three is worse for car/transportation and hotel room but I think it’s not nearly as hard as from one to two.
What you also have to consider:
You’re gonna have bad nights. With one kid only, it’s fine. You can recover. With two, you simple don’t have room for that. The bad nights will eat you up.
Finally someone that says it.
I think it’s a multi-variable problem as it handles languages differently. Also working in legacy code can be worse more often than not.
Im working on some website and created some custom menu. Nothing fancy. AI got it done after some tries and I was happy as web development is not my area of expertise.
After some time I realized the menu results to scrolling when it shouldn’t and wanted to make the parent container expand. This was impossible as the AI did a rather unusual implementation even for such a limited use case.
Best part: my task now is impossible to solve with AI as it doesn’t really get its own code.
I resulted to actually just looking into CSS and the docs and realized there is a MUCH simpler way to solve all of my issues.
Turns out sometimes the next guy who has to do maintenance is oneself.
The last point assumes that there is such a thing as sufficient abundance. I wish there was. My experience with human nature tells me there might not be, though.
I find this disrespectful by the author.
I’m sure I’ve had colleagues at work that did this to me: throwing ai generated code at the reviewers with the mindset like "why should I look at it? That's what the reviewer does anyway".
You’re not alone!
Also, I think that we just get older and learn slower. This, in combination with the lack of free time, makes me just worse at grinding leetcode.
Also I’m just frustrated sometimes. I’m not dumb and a good worker, but other people that simply have a lot of free time get rewarded.
Im very interested in that topic and haven’t made up my mind about what really counts in parenting.
You have sources for the claim about well-being (asking explicitly about mental well-being and not just material well-being) being more influenced by socioeconomic status and not so much by parental absence?
About the guy: I think if it’s just a one time thing it’s ok but the way he presents himself gives reason for doubt
For some I feel sorry. For others I don’t.
The lower ranks shouldn’t complain as much as it feels like…in the end they just act like their superiors:
They bite their tongue because of money.
CEOs do it. I’m sure some align with the current administration‘s values, but not all.
They do it cus they are afraid of fighting and losing profit.
So are the software engineers. How many people do I know that cannot imagine life with a salary lower than 200k?
I agree with you. Haven’t had very bad experience with service.
I for example am perfectly ok with flagging down a waiter to order extra drinks.
The US make me feel uncomfortable with their almost obnoxious wait staff asking you 100 times if everything is ok…but hell breaks loose if you’re done with your meal and you just wanna sit with your buddies and have one more drink or finish your beer.
Then wait staff manages to make you feel very uncomfortable in my opinion. Much worse than default German service.
Personal anecdote:
A relative of mine has his own business that covers all sorts of IT stuff.
He has a starlink running permanently as a backup because a couple of times a year his fiber experiences some downtime.
I think people start thinking he’s not just a jerk but his ulterior motives are nothing but despicable.
And some people who think he really is a racist from Apartheid Sourh Africa cannot understand how still a big part of technologists are overlooking that fact.
I think people are just disappointed in others for sticking with him.
Finally.
I’ve seen people praising Musk and also using the fact that besides all his ventures he manages to be a top player in Diablo. What a super human.
Everyone in their right mind knows this is not possible and now ppl can see it.
A CEO of multiple large corporations and I guess a political actor now with 12(!) children beats all the young folks with unlimited time to sink into that game.
No way in hell he does not pay somewhere or someone to get to that level.
Musk is no superhuman. He might brag about this with Rogan but to me this fact more than any other shows how delusional and unlikable he is nowadays.
Throwaway.
Having worked in the same company as the author I have to say that I highly respect their work for the c++ language, the continuous effort it takes bringing those abstract concepts into the standard, many not understanding them easily but eventually benefiting from them as an end user.
As a distant colleague it was hard to judge their influence on the codebase though. They do have a reputation in the c++ community but it always felt like I didn't see their footprint in our system (as in meaningful PRs) and that they had very strange working hours, strong opinions and preferred working on unrelated semi-personal projects.
I wonder if there was any language and community they'd feel comfortable in.
I strongly believe so, too.
Whether you like c++ or not, it can be low or high level and is a swiss army knife of sorts. As a gamedev using c++ I am sure you have learnt a lot about programming and systems and hardware, also about compile-time and runtime.
Those concepts are invaluable and help you out in any language and since c++ is so versatile you'll be able to make yourself comfortable in many languages.
E.g. colleagues of mine who have only used Python have no idea about references, heap and stack, L1/2/3 caches and so on. It's a shame.
This of course being said about the situation without any parents around. The step from two to three is worse for car/transportation and hotel room but I think it’s not nearly as hard as from one to two.
What you also have to consider: You’re gonna have bad nights. With one kid only, it’s fine. You can recover. With two, you simple don’t have room for that. The bad nights will eat you up.