It's not remotely the same, there is no recognized consensus among any scientific community that individuals can personally identify with being born in a different year and that the dissonance they feel causes harm. On the flip side, there's endless research, studies, and articles detailing gender dysphoria and even references going back through ancient times and totally widespread across different cultures and geographies. Forcing trans women to get ids labeling them as male may not cause them any inherent harm, or it may, but imagine what's going to happen as this already vulnerable group gets pulled over or attempts to vote and they don't "look" the gender on their Id? Find something more important to care about.