wendybeth · HackerTrans

It might be useful to ask them to teach you something. How do they explain concepts? Do they allow you to ask questions? Do they speak down to you? Do they admit when they don't know something? Could you imagine yourself going to this person for help or instruction on a regular basis, and trust that they'd lead you in the right direction at a pace you're comfortable with?

wendybeth

10 年前議論

I also don't have the skills for building such a thing. But if I could help with such a project through testing/QA, or contributing to a website, or gathering resources - whatever, really - I would, and I would use it. I've been thinking a lot about confirmation bias and echo chambers lately, too, and the truth is I don't know exactly where to look for opposing viewpoints all the time, and it's hard to gather the courage to just dive in when I know a good amount of it will make me feel ill.

Maybe just starting with a collection of opposing resources? There could be a call to action to ask people to submit articles or sources for various "stances" on different topics, and a list divided by topics and view points, or links to the few sane and awesome discussions you can occasionally find where people who think differently actually talk to each other about their differences like rational human beings. That might be an approachable place to start, anyway.

wendybeth

11 年前議論

Take care of yourself. This sounds like depression - seek help. Respect yourself and tell those thoughts saying that other people "have it worse" that whether or not that's true, you deserve to be happy.

What you're going through is normal and OK. Reward yourself with little things and accept that something has gone wrong. If you had a cold that lasted a year, you would see a doctor. That's what this is. Lack of motivation and loss of interest in things you used to love is a physical ailment. It may not seem like it, because no one else can see it, but it is.

Accept the fact that noticing these bad feelings is not self-pity. It is genuine concern that something is wrong and you are rightly worried. It's OK.

That's the first step I took in fighting my depression. It's damned difficult to do. But you reached out, and that probably was pretty difficult too. I believe you're up for it.

Take care of yourself. Respect the fact that you deserve to be happy. Reach out to professionals, and friends and family if you can.

We're a community that takes mental health seriously, because there is nothing more important for the type of work we do than having a clear and focused head.

Take care. <3

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