I would have fought, but I now know that it would it consume me, destroy my remaining family, and ruin my mental health. I fought because I’m emotional and needed to do what I felt was the "right" thing.
I have some experience with this sort of fight, against something much larger than yourself that is doing some sort of wrong. My situation is nowhere near as tragic and sad as yours, you have my condolences I couldn’t even imagine being in your position.
My own fight is a mere speck of dust vs your fight.
However what I have learnt is that I perhaps took the wrong path.
You could take the path of moving on. No more fight. Life is so short. These giant organisations can eat up years of your life in court.
This alternative path, move on, build your family anew. Take the settlement. No amount of money can give you your years back, or repair your mental health.
Like literally millions of dollars cannot fix your family that is breaking apart. Your mental health cannot be healed with any amount of money.
Look at what you have now. Who is your family. They are real, alive, they matter, move on, it is so hard. But you need to move on.
Don’t let the system steal your years in endless battles. The thing your fighting is an uncaring machine. And you are burning your years away whilst the machine is effectively immortal.
If I could do it all over again I would not fight.
You ask: What would you do if you were me?
Be selfish, take the settlement, focus on what you have that is alive - your current family. Regrow and move on as much as you can.
I have some experience with this sort of fight, against something much larger than yourself that is doing some sort of wrong. My situation is nowhere near as tragic and sad as yours, you have my condolences I couldn’t even imagine being in your position.
My own fight is a mere speck of dust vs your fight.
However what I have learnt is that I perhaps took the wrong path.
You could take the path of moving on. No more fight. Life is so short. These giant organisations can eat up years of your life in court.
This alternative path, move on, build your family anew. Take the settlement. No amount of money can give you your years back, or repair your mental health.
Like literally millions of dollars cannot fix your family that is breaking apart. Your mental health cannot be healed with any amount of money.
Look at what you have now. Who is your family. They are real, alive, they matter, move on, it is so hard. But you need to move on.
Don’t let the system steal your years in endless battles. The thing your fighting is an uncaring machine. And you are burning your years away whilst the machine is effectively immortal.
If I could do it all over again I would not fight.
You ask: What would you do if you were me?
Be selfish, take the settlement, focus on what you have that is alive - your current family. Regrow and move on as much as you can.
Put the past behind you.