This is tragic. What's so tough is that kids who are this troubled are in so much pain, and also cause immense pain to their families who feel helpless. My sister starting in early teens was intensely troubled (depression, drug abuse, self-destructive behavior, etc) and made my parents life very difficult. There was never a tough love camp, but I can understand the desire to try something, anything to place the kid somewhere out of harms way, both as a Hail Mary attempt to help them and to get some peace themselves. That these kids end up in harms way is the evil twist.
My sister, to this day, is intensely troubled. My parents, in their 70s, are raising her 7 year old. Immense amount of resources (time, love, medical care, psychological care, money) are spent every year helping her. Sometimes, there's just nothing that can "fix" these situations it's an ongoing process. My parents thankfully are well resourced in all the required ways to provide this level of support, and the siblings are onboard as well as this will continue past my parents time.
I guess I just think it's worth considering that there sometimes seems to be no real option in helping troubled kids / family members and it's a heartbreaking situation.
My sister, to this day, is intensely troubled. My parents, in their 70s, are raising her 7 year old. Immense amount of resources (time, love, medical care, psychological care, money) are spent every year helping her. Sometimes, there's just nothing that can "fix" these situations it's an ongoing process. My parents thankfully are well resourced in all the required ways to provide this level of support, and the siblings are onboard as well as this will continue past my parents time.
I guess I just think it's worth considering that there sometimes seems to be no real option in helping troubled kids / family members and it's a heartbreaking situation.