Best interview experience consisted of these things:
- the choice of video or audio only calls (I did audio only interviews for my current job and was hired. We didn’t do video until the congratulations call)
- the openness to ask additional questions via email
- the openness to let me answer interview questions via email for things that I couldn’t think of on the spot
- a short project via email
- answering more work related questions via email and leaving the interview for more of a getting to know you thing
- a conversation format where the interviewer contributes to the conversation
- exact dates of when to hear back
- a short profile of who you will be talking to
- a summary of what the interview will be about, and what kind of questions will be asked
I suck at interviews. No one wants to hire me for the roles I want. I don’t have the skills yet to influence how I want people to perceive me so that I can get a job in another role. I don’t like my current role, so wouldn’t want to change jobs just to stay in the same role.
I grew up poor and for the longest time, I hated rich people and even hated well-off people. I was jealous that they were able to afford things like going out to a eat, laptops, a safe environment to live in, etc. I especially hated kids who had rich or well-off parents because those kids had it so easy and had more opportunities. They were able to focus on school, and got everything they needed for school. While I struggled so much more. I hated that they had less to overcome. They didn’t need to spend their energy getting caught up. What helped me were a few things:
(1) Getting a job that paid ~45K a year and paying off my debt
(2) Changing my mindset from hating rich people to wanting to have success like them. I still have bitterness, but now I try to think how did they became successful, and how can I become wealthy?
(3) Realizing that even though I grew up poor, there are people who grew up even poorer. It’s no use feeling constantly sorry for yourself. It only holds you back. You will always be more well-off then a lot of other people. And there will always be a lot of people who has it worse than you. I became grateful for what growing up poor taught me. A shit ton more resilience, empathy, and adaptability then someone who had it easy.
(4) I stopped comparing and designed my life how I want it within my financial limits. It also helps that I never wanted to keep up with the Joneses.
I switched industries and roles by taking an entry-level position in a new industry. Took a pay cut, but new gig had way better benefits. 100% worth it. Got more raises so far then the entire time I stayed in the old role. Got better benefits and colleagues. Wish I did it sooner.
What helped me in making my decision was comparing the industry and growth of my old role versus potential of the new one.
- the choice of video or audio only calls (I did audio only interviews for my current job and was hired. We didn’t do video until the congratulations call)
- the openness to ask additional questions via email
- the openness to let me answer interview questions via email for things that I couldn’t think of on the spot
- a short project via email
- answering more work related questions via email and leaving the interview for more of a getting to know you thing
- a conversation format where the interviewer contributes to the conversation
- exact dates of when to hear back
- a short profile of who you will be talking to
- a summary of what the interview will be about, and what kind of questions will be asked