It's the process of identifying it that takes time. If it were sleep apnea, especially severe, a few days to a week of change would be enough to elicit a mental health shift.
The same generalities probably apply to other subtle health issues that can have 2nd order mental health effects.
edit - you're in AB, right next door to me. Go to your GP (and/or find a GP via walk-in by asking for a blood panel / urine test). Have them check for diabetes risks, acth (cortisol) levels re: apnea, and probably a fair few other things that you can at least then check off as invalid.
I entirely understand where you're coming from. I've always been the one to fall asleep hours before my partner, and it causes friction.
I had a bunch of other words here that can really be boiled down to ; there's a very very good chance that something health/physical related is causing or amplifying those mental health balance struggles. I speak from experience, not just rando internet advice :)
Have you had a sleep study done to see if you have sleep apnea?
The real indicator for me, in your post, is that you're objectively working 'normal' 8hr days, and yet still go to sleep and wake up tired. It's the exhaustion that's the issue, not the work-day (if truly constrained to 8-9hrs or less).
I hear ya. I've reported to people who just didn't get it, and assumed it was an excuse to be lazy. I've also reported to people who totally understood disability and the acquired neurodiversity that often accompanies it.
I suppose you can't active seek the latter, without having a framework and criteria for doing so -- which cements my personal thoughts on the need for radical transparency. The format of that I'm still struggling with :)
I suffer from similar circumstances, and am not a developer but in the tech/software field.
I'm mostly eager to hear others input as well, but I suppose I have a little input to share.
Have you tried radical transparency with new potential employers? Applying to and approaching application processes while being as upfront as you can be about your circumstances?
I ask both suspecting it may bring different results, but also curious if others have tried. I have had poor results with it, but my introduction during screening / 1st-4th round calls tends to be vague when referencing disability, but at least trying to mention it.
Yeah, as stated -- either they take ownership and responsibility for the hardware, or it becomes your property if they fail to claim it. This sounds like a slippery slope to accidental situations involving damaged equipment returned months out of employment.
edit - To be frank, most Remote companies just write off the accessories. You return the big hardware, the laptop. The rest is yours, usually as it's budgeted and paid out differently than wage / bonus would be, so to claw it back is to get into hazy tax territory too.
GitLab's public handbook goes into far more and better detail, but here's some of my take-aways from my time with them as well as since;
- What to do when unsure what to do? There needs to be processes in place, like a Handbook-First / Manager-of-One kind of approach so people know where to go to re-orient themselves when a bit lost.
- As already mentioned, equity on the playing field. Remote-First approach even when hybrid means that everyone is starting from the same foot, so to speak.
- I suspect that Async itself is going to forever be a set of shifting goalposts. What works for an individual, team, or organization one quarter may not the next, or a year from now.
- Socializing is now a high-touch, deliberate act of peer-support. At any given point, some team members need to social support of their peers, while others do not and are able to lend a shoulder. This can range anywhere from coffee-chats to on-sites.
- Oh! and last but not least, the fact that the last year+ has not been what Remote / Remote-Hybrid work should look like. It's WFH during a pandemic, yah?
The same generalities probably apply to other subtle health issues that can have 2nd order mental health effects.
edit - you're in AB, right next door to me. Go to your GP (and/or find a GP via walk-in by asking for a blood panel / urine test). Have them check for diabetes risks, acth (cortisol) levels re: apnea, and probably a fair few other things that you can at least then check off as invalid.