Let’s be honest here. Would your third cousin do all of that for you? No, ok, so let’s not pretend all family equates to yourLoving SO, siblings or parents level of impact on your life. There are people with family who abused them in their childhood, with family members who are objectively terrible people. There are brothers and sisters who hate each other with a passion but still both show up to their cousins wedding and act nicely.
Family only means that there is a bond between you that cannot be ignored independent of what you think of the people. And that being the case these are people you try to make the best of the relationships with because you know they’ll show up in you life no matter if you like it or not.
The comparison with co-workers is quite on point.
If you want space from your co-workers quit. Because no matter how long and technically complex your education is, no matter if you are a wold leading expert in a narrow field, getting along with people is a core competence for anyone who doesn’t either run their own one-man gig, or work in dark basement of an organization where everyone has given up on communicating through any other means than email.
Honestly, if you think spending 15 minutes (we’re closer to 10 though) talking to your team to ensure that you know what others are working on and they know what you are working on, then I don’t want to work with you.
It’s not wasted time, and even if you don’t care what I’m working on I still care that you know so that we don’t spend two weeks building something only for you to go “Oh, that won’t work after the changes I made to the core.... why didn’t you come by my desk and ask me “are you intending to change the core code in a way that invalidates all assumptions we had two weeks ago when we started working on this?” And do so like clockwork every day, even though I’d answer no 6 times before suddenly answering yes?
“But we already communicate in the team outside of the Stand-up!” You say. Ok then, tomorrow at your standup, have everyone go though someone else’s points, I’ll say what you did yesterday, if you have blockers and what you’ll do today. If everyone does this flawlessly, then yes the daily is wasted time, but for every mistaken assumption you hear, that is a potential mistake or missed opportunity or just general annoyance you avoided simply by talking 10 minutes together.
Now don’t get me started on the number of bad excuses that you avoid by having daily stand ups that’s a whole other subject, but also an extremely valuable element. “I’m waiting on Kevin to finish X” “Does Kevin know this?” “Yes of cause! “ Kevin: “Wait what? Err what am I supposed to be doing? That’s not on the board”. Etc.
My 2 cent would be to make the necessary changes in the standard library such that an external library (on pypi) can enable the feature.
That lets us start working with them, but puts no pressure on c extension developers to support it because subintepreters “aren’t standandard” but just yet another pypi library which might fail in combination with others. Then in a couple of years if the ecosystem adopt and supports them, it can be moved to standard.
Family only means that there is a bond between you that cannot be ignored independent of what you think of the people. And that being the case these are people you try to make the best of the relationships with because you know they’ll show up in you life no matter if you like it or not.
The comparison with co-workers is quite on point.
If you want space from your co-workers quit. Because no matter how long and technically complex your education is, no matter if you are a wold leading expert in a narrow field, getting along with people is a core competence for anyone who doesn’t either run their own one-man gig, or work in dark basement of an organization where everyone has given up on communicating through any other means than email.