> I've come to realize that I often take constructive criticisms personally.
Somebody once told me, "never fall in love with your ideas." Because you are not your ideas. You are not the things you create. Your work and your creations exist outside of you and they can receive criticism without it being targeted at you personally.
> Everything from an unintentionally snarky comment in a PR I've made to someone highlight a mistake I’ve made that I probably couldn't have known about.
When someone points at your work and says "this is bad" they are not pointing at you and saying "you are bad" are they? And if they are attacking you directly, and not your work, that seems more like a problem with them than it does you.
> I see this as one of my major flaws and try hard to mask how I feel. But I just hope to learn to stop feeling bad for honest mistakes.
Feeling your feelings is not a flaw. Wanting to stop feeling bad is worthwhile, but many people accomplish it by becoming calloused and cynical. They stop caring about what they do and both they and their work suffer accordingly.
Focus instead on separating your feelings about yourself from your feelings about your work. Be critical of the things you're doing. Acknowledge where things aren't great but you're trying to do better and nothing can be perfect.
I am the proprietor of the OpenEuphoria Group (https://openeuphoria.org/). We make maintain the Euphoria programming language: a general-purpose interpreted programming language with a simple syntax and flexible type system.
The original developer released Euphoria 3.0 as open source in 2006 and the new group was formed to continue development. And they were quite successful for a while. Euphoria 4.0 was released in 2008 with many new features. But after a few more patches, the original group effectively disappeared around 2015 and version 4.1 was never released officially.
I took over ownership of the domain and website in 2018, then migrated the code hosting to GitHub (https://github.com/OpenEuphoria) and started digging into continuing development. The hosting and domain registration cost me about $100/year, some of which is paid by donations from the community. But money isn't really the concern; what I need is time.
I've been using Euphoria for over 25 years but I only started working on its development in the past few years. If I could do this full time I would, but right now I can only put in a few hours a week and I'm not even sure how viable Euphoria could be as a means of income.
We need at least one or two more actively involved volunteers who can help get version 4.2 out the door. And after that we need to rebuild the website, finish migrating to GitHub, and focus on new features and development tools. If you're reading this and would like to contribute, please comment here, sign up on our forum, or email me directly: [email protected]
Somebody once told me, "never fall in love with your ideas." Because you are not your ideas. You are not the things you create. Your work and your creations exist outside of you and they can receive criticism without it being targeted at you personally.
> Everything from an unintentionally snarky comment in a PR I've made to someone highlight a mistake I’ve made that I probably couldn't have known about.
When someone points at your work and says "this is bad" they are not pointing at you and saying "you are bad" are they? And if they are attacking you directly, and not your work, that seems more like a problem with them than it does you.
> I see this as one of my major flaws and try hard to mask how I feel. But I just hope to learn to stop feeling bad for honest mistakes.
Feeling your feelings is not a flaw. Wanting to stop feeling bad is worthwhile, but many people accomplish it by becoming calloused and cynical. They stop caring about what they do and both they and their work suffer accordingly.
Focus instead on separating your feelings about yourself from your feelings about your work. Be critical of the things you're doing. Acknowledge where things aren't great but you're trying to do better and nothing can be perfect.