A few years ago my parents were helping a family of Yazidi refugees in my hometown in germany. This included taking them to doctor appointments and at one such appointment a doctor fitted a contraceptive coil without consent or knowledge to the mother of the familiy... the reason beeing: they already had enough kids.
I felt disgusted by this behaviour and the casual way my parents told me of this, but have never shared this with anybody - although I have thought about it often over the years.
This paternalistic, "we know better than you" kind of behaviour sickens me and remains a thorn in my side, because I'm complicit.
The absence of men in these fields is part of the problem, as you say! However, the absence of men in these fields are by choice. To place the blame on only those that are present in raising everyones children and ignore the fact that most men choose not to be part in this hugely important societal task is (imo) wrong.