Thanks for putting these words together - I can relate to it!
I feel this article lacks a bit of the purpose behind "being different". I agree that doing what you described is not easy and will make you socialise less than before. However, isn't the point of all these changes to make you feel good?
If you are feeling depressed or have a feeling that everything is "work" - I would question, "What 'being different' will do for you?". If you are 'living for the future', what is your deadline to live this way before you start enjoying life?
One extra tool that has been super helpful for me (although a bit hard to start) is self-compassion. It helped me be more aligned with what I want. Sometimes, I want to brainlessly rest by watching Netflix, which is fine as long as I'm not lying to myself.
I relate so much with your writing (both quitting and your writing style), thanks for sharing.
For me, this habit of breaking habits is based mostly on my curiosity about how my mind works and the fear of losing control.
I know that I easily get addicted to pleasure, so I quickly cut habits from my life when I have the first glimpse of losing control of it.
Lately I’ve been trying to quit this “all or nothing” mentality and adopt a more balanced mentality, where I allow myself to enjoy a cup of coffee or chocolate, within the amounts where I feel acceptable. It is not easy, but having compassion with myself has helped me not stress when going over the “limit” and also to stick with good habits when I need.
And as you mentioned, it is so easy to make this topic about me. Sorry about that!
I feel this article lacks a bit of the purpose behind "being different". I agree that doing what you described is not easy and will make you socialise less than before. However, isn't the point of all these changes to make you feel good?
If you are feeling depressed or have a feeling that everything is "work" - I would question, "What 'being different' will do for you?". If you are 'living for the future', what is your deadline to live this way before you start enjoying life?
One extra tool that has been super helpful for me (although a bit hard to start) is self-compassion. It helped me be more aligned with what I want. Sometimes, I want to brainlessly rest by watching Netflix, which is fine as long as I'm not lying to myself.
Anyway, thanks for sharing again :)