If someone feels like they are losing either way (through words or conflict), making everyone lose through conflict instead of just them might not seems so bad. For the most part, people in western developed nations are sheltered from the fact that most of the world lives under much less secure circumstances, where things can fall apart very quickly. Even in the privileged world of developed nations, it doesn't take much to see the soft white underbelly of humanity that exists alongside us but is often ignored. Power and politics rarely align incentives in ways where everyone benefits equally.