My mom does. She's almost 60. She asks for recipes and facts, asks about random illnesses, asks it why she's feeling sad, asks it how to talk to her friend with terminal cancer.
I didn't tell her to download the app, nor she is a tech-y person, she just did on her own.
Advice may not be what you are seeking, but a few things jumped out to me:
Pouring thousands of dollars into a casual meetup, even over the years, tells me of it being less casual than what is described in the OP.
I have never had more success trying to cater to different diets, budgets, asking for opinions on restaurants. Organizing a club needs, at least at first, a near totalitarian approach. _You_ pick a nice place, hopefully decently affordable, assume e.g. that everyone will drink and if not the club soda or coke will have to do.
Eventually, the group self-optimizes for the sweet spot in things such as age gap between its members. The ones who don't like the types of places you pick, the tone of the meeting, demography, etc. will drop over time.