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Asking better questions with mutation testing

notashelf.dev
1 points·by jondlm·w zeszłym roku·0 comments

The Joy of Discovery

jondlm.github.io
1 points·by jondlm·2 lata temu·0 comments

My Time Working at Stripe

jondlm.github.io
398 points·by jondlm·2 lata temu·382 comments

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jondlm
·27 dni temu·discuss
You're not wrong. I also think it's a trap to think they're in a fundamentally different category than we are. Yes, the blast radius of their harm can be enormous. _And_ they're humans like you and me. Likely hiding deep wounds of their own that are screaming for care-full attention.
jondlm
·27 dni temu·discuss
> I think that CEOs of those companies are ethically challenged people, narcissists and sociopaths.

Likely true in many cases!

> there is no evil emerging in big systems

That's a very definitive statement!

What brings you to the conclusion that there aren't forces at play that we don't yet have a good name for or don't yet have the scientific means to study?
jondlm
·27 dni temu·discuss
I did say "ostensibly" ;)

Agreed that power nearly always corrupts. It does so in often subtle and slow shifts. In general we have a paucity of leaders who wield their power on behalf of the oppressed.

The truth is that the "bad" leaders need powerful help. They need someone to come alongside them and love them into the light of the damage they've caused by drifting into complacency. And I'm not talking about "nice" love here, it might initially look more like shame.
jondlm
·27 dni temu·discuss
This... this... this! This resonates soooo deeply with me.

The wild thing is that these tech "systems" (aka companies) are made up of ostensibly good people. It's often impossible to look at individual people and say, "they're the cause of this damage." I believe that some form of evil (this word feel inadequate) emerges amidst these large systems that is incredibly hard to pinpoint. It's why dissension is so fucking critical. Tech companies continue to profit from the status quo and we need courageous people who disrupt that.
jondlm
·12 miesięcy temu·discuss
I loved this article. Thank you for sharing it.

I felt it put words to an experience I wrote about learning to "play" the piano: https://jondlm.github.io/website/blog/the_joy_of_discovery/

Cheers to all of you out there trying to slow down.
jondlm
·w zeszłym roku·discuss
The topic of this article felt familiar to me. It's similar to ideas in IFS: internal family systems. IFS also uses control systems to describe our internal landscape.

If the concept of multiplicity (we humans being a system of smaller systems) resonates with you, consider reading No Bad Parts by Richard C. Schwartz. I've personally found it immensely helpful.
jondlm
·2 lata temu·discuss
Hey Noj! Thanks! I certainly am getting some good rest. Things aren't as bleak as they may appear from my article.
jondlm
·2 lata temu·discuss
It wasn't.

It's the painful truth of how I felt. I'm not saying it's good. In fact, it's _very bad_.
jondlm
·2 lata temu·discuss
Thank you for the kind comment :)
jondlm
·2 lata temu·discuss
I completely agree. I didn't talk about it in the post but I have done a lot of therapy over the last couple years. I'm painfully aware of the ways I've projected my past pain onto my present.

My attempt with the article was to simply reflect how things have felt and leave analysis largely absent. I realize it's left folks with a lot of questions and rightly worried about me.

I'm in a much better place now.

Thank you for taking the time to write this comment.
jondlm
·2 lata temu·discuss
Thank you for the kind words!

Thankfully I'm not ground down to a nub. I've found a lot of support over the last few years outside of work.
jondlm
·2 lata temu·discuss
My boss shared first and was very much clear about it being optional.

People bring a lot of context into these conversations and make a lot of assumptions. There is a lot of nuance here and that's tough to sit with.
jondlm
·2 lata temu·discuss
Your red flags are absolutely merited. I won't deny that.
jondlm
·2 lata temu·discuss
Sorry to hear you've been burned by sharing.
jondlm
·2 lata temu·discuss
That's rough. Sorry to hear you were pushed.
jondlm
·2 lata temu·discuss
This is great. I absolutely agree that the best leaders gently invite and lead with appropriate vulnerability. They also don't mind if people say "no" either with words or body language.
jondlm
·2 lata temu·discuss
I know I won't be able to convince everyone here, but I didn't feel pressured to share anything deeply personal. Some people on the team didn't. They weren't punished or looked down on. We were a tight-knit team before and after that event.