Medicine also includes positions like nursing. If you want to create a world that's pure 50/50 then you would want there to be programs to get men into nursing programs.
I will agree that there are less women in software, but there are so many STEM programs/funds out there that are specifically targeting women. There are more women doctors then men doctors, are there initiatives in place to promote more men in medicine?
As a POC I have never been kicked out of a library or a Starbucks and I'm from the south. Situations happen, but that doesn't mean it happens everywhere. Sometimes I wonder why when you look at me all you see is a helpless POC, it's very demoralizing and trivializes us.