Online dating has many problems, but not all failures to obtain a positive outcome from online dating are the fault of the system. It is easy to blame the system and more difficult to accept that the system is not at fault in some situations. You can't simultaneously reject the current societal dating standards but also expect that a system based on those same standards will work for you. Given this, might it make more sense to find a method of dating that is more in line with the societal standards that you seek to live by?