This is extremely similar to my situation. When I finish my workday I often find myself just sitting with her and watching Netflix but if I get up and go to the other room to do something I'm interested in she'll get upset.
I think a lot of the issues come from the fact that I don't feel I "need" anything from her. It makes it hard to relate to her when she "needs" something from me. I actually think not needing anything from other people is the root of the issue. I'm very independent and always trying to be self-sufficient (stock piling money, etc) so that I don't need to rely on other people.
I think this independence is a fault as it keeps from from "being vulnerable" and opening up more which is what leads to deeper connections with other humans. I'm trying to work on it a bit and have found that when I genuinely open up to my wife it actually frees up more time for me. Rather than spending 3 hours watching netflix we can spend 30 minutes having a deep conversation and then her needs are met and I can go do my own thing. Trying to do this regularly is really difficult though.
I think a lot of the issues come from the fact that I don't feel I "need" anything from her. It makes it hard to relate to her when she "needs" something from me. I actually think not needing anything from other people is the root of the issue. I'm very independent and always trying to be self-sufficient (stock piling money, etc) so that I don't need to rely on other people.
I think this independence is a fault as it keeps from from "being vulnerable" and opening up more which is what leads to deeper connections with other humans. I'm trying to work on it a bit and have found that when I genuinely open up to my wife it actually frees up more time for me. Rather than spending 3 hours watching netflix we can spend 30 minutes having a deep conversation and then her needs are met and I can go do my own thing. Trying to do this regularly is really difficult though.