There is a profound malaise in modern society for men. You should read the books of French writer Michel Houellebecq as he's precisely describing it.
Modern men lack a purpose in their life. No transcendency anymore, no family models, no sense of common good, people become atomized individuals, and we're not supposed to live like that.
The problem runs very deep even though people start to realize it.
You have to use intellectual concepts to fight another intellectual concept. Adhominem isn't helping at all here.