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Ask HN: How do I get over constant failure?

86 points·by burnoutgal·há 5 anos·122 comments

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burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
"getting hit for a bus" is a hyperbolic example meant to stand in for a catastrophic event. It really means you (or a family member like a parent, partner or child) has a major health event, for instance. Some things are random, some things tend to become more likely with age. Even just chronic pain or other health issues might make retirement less fun than travelling in your 20s (speaking as someone with chronic pain from surgical implants).

Besides health there's a lot of reasons why being certain about doing something now might be preferable to putting it off for 10+ years.
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
But you need a house with a backyard, two teslas, a wine cellar and a college fund or you aren't really living /s
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
In the boom time there's an unending appetite for mediocre engineers to inflate headcount, making managers look good (more reports) and companies look good (to investors). In the bust time, I don't think even the smartest people will be safe, and the top of the ladder may well be pruned more aggressively because they're expensive. Having positive reviews may protect you, but being high in the org won't.
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
Do you worry about being hit by a bus before you have FU money? Personally I'd rather work half time for twice as many years than try to race to retire.

A lot of responses seem to be focused on high cost-of-living areas, which is kind of a chicken-and-egg problem. If you want to be a moderately checked out person, living in a smaller city and stretching your giant bay area salary is the way to go. If you want to be aggressively careerist, you have to be face-to-face in the bay networking.

More input and more interesting problems both feel like more responsibility for the same comp, imo, which might be appealing for some people but is anathema to me. The people higher up got there by being more argumentative, or backstabbing, or ingratiating themselves, and instead of going along with them now you get to fight them. No thanks.
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
Seriously, why do people care about being promoted beyond senior/staff? Even at a smaller company you're making 200k/year, you probably have a good handle on your job, why not just coast? There's a big discontinuity in comp if you can make it to the director level, but being a manager or senior staff seems like a ton of work for no benefit.

I work like 20 hours a week at my job, I almost quit because it's extremely boring and dysfunctional, but then I realized I can just disengage and enjoy my extra free time instead of pushing to exceed expectations. And I still get paid the same.
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
I worked at Shopify - Pay is all about getting the Shopify brand into consumer minds. They had a huge problem where retailers used their platform but there was very little stickiness, the customer relationship was owned by the retailer. With Pay Shopify used it's existing install base to collect customer info and intermediate their relationship with merchants, making it harder to move a shop off Shopify.

Of course they need to tell a story about increased revenue to the retailers, because otherwise why would they voluntarily give Shopify control over their relationship with their customers?
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
“Conservatism consists of exactly one proposition …There must be in-groups whom the law protects but does not bind, alongside out-groups whom the law binds but does not protect.”

The overton window in america is so far to the right that the prospect of charging rich people for breaking the law is unheard of.
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
A remarkable thing about these stories is that many artists end up enjoying lavish lifestyles while they're popular, but having no money (and going on the dole) when their success wanes. The record industry absolutely encourages this boom and bust lifestyle by advancing money and then withholding royalties until an artist is "recouped", which almost never happens thanks to some fun accounting tricks. The result is young people who come from modest means, are showered with cash, and recieved no financial planning advice. They're also a magnet for people trying to get a cut of the money - people who will encourage them to pursue a lifestyle of excess.
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
Dave Grohl is the Paul McCartney of the 90s - survived the breakup of a band that had massive mainstream success, reinvented himself as a solo artist, now gets to be a lifetime musician with more money than god. I like Nirvana and I like early Foo Fighters, but modern Dave Grohl has been churning out hard-rock oatmeal with copy-paste lyrics since Colour and the Shape.
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
Yeah, having seen the monstrosities Tableau generates, that example seemed quaint.
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
There's lots of python libraries for graph visualization, it's probably force-directed layout or something else similar.

The name is indeed a reference to data warehouse design, where you normally have heavily normalized data in a snowflake schema. The Kimball book is the canonical one on data warehouse design.
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
Glad to see this perspective. I find the industry in general is full of very confident people who will try to bowl you over with their cursory understanding of topics.
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
Personally I hate scratch images because once you lose busybox, you lose the ability to exec into containers. It's a great escape hatch for troubleshooting.
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
Women should have the option to control their own bodies - that means allowing birth control and abortion.

It's also patriarchy at work that men would never tolerate even 1/10th of the risks women face in preventing pregnancy. Look at the responses to getting a small injection - "nobody would ever do that"! Hormonal birth control is great for some women, but terrible for others. It can also cause suicidality, but the side effects are routinely downplayed because women are expected to "deal with it". There's more research into how to keep men's hair from falling out and keep their dicks hard than there is into the most comfortable way to insert IUDs, or the side effects of hormonal birth control.
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
Women get IUDs inserted with nothing more than OTC painkillers, generally. Especially in people who have never given birth it can be cripplingly painful and cause severe cramps for weeks.
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
Have you ever read about what it's like to get an IUD inserted? I would recommend checking that out and then asking whether a small injection to the genitals is really the worst possibility.
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
When I was at Shopify, it was Python unit tests for ETL code. There was a framework of reusable components that simplified things, but it was all homegrown. They were trying to move to dbt
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
The IDF have also murdered a lot of innocent palestinians, but if you do it dressed like a soldier somehow it's not "terrorism"
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
well, and the israeli definition of "terror activities" for palestinians could be as simple as "showed up at a protest"
burnoutgal
·há 4 anos·discuss
I have been the token woman interviewing a woman and also joined teams where the only other woman interviewed me. It always struck me more as "look, we have one and she's not mouthing 'get out' so we're a good employer".

Usually once I join the one other woman leaves and the cycle repeats.