I have first hand experience with this.I am late 50s and still at top of my game in my area of expertise. It was time to move on from last job last year and had zero interest from anyone. All through my network so no cold calls either. I know for a fact those positions were filled with late 30s mid 40s people.
So my answer was luckily i retired. The interesting thing is after being in tech for 35-40 years i have no interest in any of it now. Hell after 3 weeks of retirement i didnt.
I have a small farm now and play with tractors and such all day.
I retired from tech after 40 years this spring. Im now a farmer in the middle of nowhere.
The big thing i see missing from long ago times is a real sense of community and an all in one site ( article , forums etc). They try and some are decent but there just isnt the connection and i dont think that will ever return. I think reddit and the like sucked all that away from sites and the audience is much much broader so i feel they lose some of that “likemidedness” i dunno im just old and cant really relate to the younger “techies” of today.
Yea we worked on his old site before anadtech. Sheesh so much fun at CES with the gang in lv. Was fun times. My buddy started fusetalk by writing anadtech forums from scratch. It all moved to .net after a couple years and that when i left. Jason stayed on for years
A sad day. My buddy and I were the original developers of anandtech when it went live running on cold fusion and oracle as the backend. I started a hosting company and hosted anadtrch for a few years. Lots of memories there.
This is exactly what im doing this year. Though im 30yrs in. I bought a farm next to my dad in idaho. Im done in march and moving cross country and growing alfalfa and potatoes
Our county did basically same thing in rural va. Our coop who the county partnered with is now expanding to 5 other counties. 1gb 75 mo. Its been down once in 4 years
Exactly that. Good life skills. And guess what. They still play casual and have a blast are fit healthy and pretty mentally strong. (Proud dad eeking out).
We have life long friends whos kids went more music or arts but with the same kind of attitude. Guess what. They are happy too. To us it was just helping them find stuff they liked doing.
The biggest rule was if you start a season you finish it. (There were exceptions for sure) it wasnt all roses but they learned from that too
I think parents use “preparing them for the future” as an excuse tbh. Part of it is they are trying to relive their childhood through the kids (seen this ALOT). I coached rec league basketball and soccer for 20 years and it was very prevalent.
It was funny/sad as every once in a while i would have the kids bring a book or a boardgame to practice and parents would loose their shit. Kids loved it but a lot of i was hampering their childs development type talk. Give me a break. Its rec league. Made for learning the game and having a blast doing it
Awesome for him. Parents dont want to hear what .000001 % actually have a chance to go pro? Every year after the season we always asked if they were still having fun. To us it was good skill building. Social,fitness, how to lose etc.
Its all superficial competition. As a society we have made it so if you dont make x dollars youre a failure. I do think the pandemic opened a lot of eyes to change though.
Also the push for college or youre a failure and will never get a job has been supremely harmful to kids via debt and a myriad other issues.
It has. Everyone’s kid now is a future pro millionaire. Our family has a decent few pro football (american) and baseball players and we have always played high level sports. My deal with the kids was always you play what you want at the level you want. If its not fun pick something else. I think sports are important. 2 of my kids did very well with soccer (college scholarship level) my youngest said nah. She danced and worked at the pet shelter :)
Having a child that hit teens then and hindsight being 20/20. Crazy parents and social media i feel can be the root of the majority of. Really location specific and not the deciding factor but it laid a solid foundation for mental health issues even today.
My daughter hit her teens in2012. It was a horrible couple of years not just for her but from about 8th grade up.
Our HS had a suicide wave. Many attepts (my daughter being one) and quite a few of those attempts were successful later. Thankfully my child responded well to therapy.
This was in a high competitive HS IN NORTHERN VA.
My thoughts on factors:
Crazy parents pushing kids to try and get in TJ who had no business there. (We did not)
Peer pressure to over perform at everything
(If you did t have a 4.5 gpa you were stupid)
And the big bad social media really started going for teens then. And it was brutal
Over scheduling for activities. We played travel soccer. Super competitive. We had girls that played travel basketbal,soccer and softball. One of those is almost year round. Three? Your never home
We balanced it all with camping. It helped so much. One weekend a month minimum. No excuses.
Rambled a bit but from about 2011 on kids have been fucked.
Proxmox helper scripts maintainer who went into hospice a couple weeks ago passed. This post on gh is from his wife