It seems the reason for your disappointment was lack of research. If you knew you were going to use it with projectors, I'm not sure why you wouldn't look into that, especially since the Macbook Air only has thunderbolt.
Not sure. Maybe it triggered some sort of filter because it's about pornography. Does anyone know if there's anyone you can contact about this? I've tried emailing the ycombinator address, but I'm not super hopeful for a reply.
Not really, the other elements of sex are what keep 'regular' sex interesting; the connection, the variety of foreplay or positions, the fact that there's a real person there :D
I won't pretend to know much about the science behind it, but my understanding is that a habit of porn removes the link between being horny and then becoming sexually aroused. So instead of getting an erection because you see your sexy wife, you're getting one because you're so used to watching porn at 2 am before bed. And the extremely graphic and immediate nature of porn means that habit is a very strong one. It's like a chocolate bar in the immediate gratification and overwhelming of your senses. Whereas sex with a wife is more like a delicious but wholesome meal you sit down and enjoy. And that continues to be delicious no matter how much you eat it.
Oh, and since when was wanting your wife to dress up as Princess Leia seen as kinky? :P
Take a look at http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/. It's an entire site dedicated to explaining the effects of porn on your sex drive and encouraging men to give it up. Lots of links to supporting evidence there.
The article is really more about the author's personal experience with giving up porn and that of his readers. I gave it up myself earlier this year, and have noticed a definite improvement. Don't have issues with getting/keeping it up. I don't think my results were as near as impressive as others were either, as I wasn't anywhere near watching it daily.
As for the book on how to attract women, I'm not sure what advising guys to give up porn has to do with it. Wouldn't you be fine with guys watching it, because that encourages them to idealize women and fantasize about sleeping with them more? Giving up porn would cause them to become less obsessed with their sex life and focus more on the rest of their lives. Don't know how that means they're more likely to buy dating advice. Which is fine by us because we're gearing the site to be less and less about dating these days :)
Definitely agree that it was and still is a trend. I won't claim we were the first to distance ourselves, but I think we were the best!
Our POV on what defines 'pickup' advice versus regular dating advice is that 'pickup' is the decision to objectify your sex life in order to improve it. We don't believe that this is a healthy or effective mindset, hence we don't define our material as 'pickup'.
Honestly, I think if you read some more of the site, for example http://postmasculine.com/why-its-so-hard or especially http://postmasculine.com/pickup-artist (warning: long) you'd come to the conclusion that we're a far shot from what most people associate pickup with. But it's up to you whether you want to spend the time :)
Thanks. One of our unofficial goals is to not be an Askmen ripoff with better writing. I enjoy reading Askmen articles once in a while, especially when I need something very specific and practical like how to tie a bow tie, or when I want to waste some time on a 'top 10 hottest chicks in surrealist Angolian horror films' list or something equally mindless. But we're aiming to go a little deeper than that :)
Any more feedback, negative or positive is much appreciated.
Employee of the site here. Just want to point out a few things.
1. The submitter of the article to HN has no affiliation with Postmasculine as far as I know, nor did we request them to post it here. We're very grateful for them doing so however!
2. While the author of the site was involved in the pickup industry for a while, he chose to no longer identify with that scene over two years ago, and specifically moved his content away from its perspective, even going so far as to systemically deconstruct the flaws and failures of Pickup theory and the community it created. So we don't feel that 'pickup' really represents what the site has to say about dating. Although we definitely do talk about meeting women. A lot. :)
3. While we're dedicated internet marketing students, we're far from experts on the subject. We're putting a lot of time and effort into improving the site's marketing, but our number one focus will always be on providing high quality content that is as no BS and realistic as possible. Hopefully anyone who came from HN and spends further time reading the site will agree.
I realize your comment wasn't a criticism, but just thought I'd try and give a bit more context to the situation. Thanks for assuming we were so professional!
Hey guys, I work for Postmasculine and just wanted to jump in quickly. First, thanks for sharing this Arun2009. I've been reading HN daily for the last 9 months and love it. Amazing to open up my computer today and see us as the number one link. I believe my reaction was something like this: http://www.reactiongifs.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/excit...
Anyway, I mainly wanted to ask what people thought of the site apart from that article. Did you read anything else and did you like it or dislike it? If so, what articles did you read?
Disagree. If you look at all the three camera apps next to it (including instagram) they all have the camera lense. It seems facetious to suggest this is 'copying' Apple.
Also, what's the big deal with making it similar to Apple's App? Anyone who usually tries to copy them would be pitied because we know that copying Apple is a recipe for disaster. But because it's instagram, we know it's going to succeed. So it seems you have some sort of issue with Facebook spending $1 billion and then trying to grow the app from there.
Getting sick of the FB hate just because we now take it for granted. I've been through that phase, and it feels very unnecessary now.
I don't think we need to get all defensive about this. Yes we overtweet, share, retweet, 'like', etc, and we love how self-aware we all are. Good point, Teddy Wayne. Now, what suggestion do you have as an alternative to offer?
And at the same time on HN there's a link to Aziz Ansari's new standup special which I can buy for $5, despite the fact that I live in 'lil old New Zealand.
Tim Cushing is right; I don't want to hear your ramblings about licensing or rights. The fact is, Aziz and Louis CK can do it; why can't the music labels?
Agreed. Times when I was afraid to tell other people about something I was working on/wanted to achieve were the same times as when it/I wasn't good enough.
Oh my god. Rolls eyes. I believe that the ban on electronic devices during take off, taxi and landing is completely unnecessary and founded on paranoia. I think the ban should be overturned as much as the next person.
BUT. Do you really have to claim that you're off to buy a STACK of magazines to read in this time? Are you that incapable of sitting unstimulated in your seat for a few minutes each time you fly?
Just a thought; when you get all these angry responses from people criticizing what you wrote does that make you think 'huh, a lot of people are mad about what I said, hence I must be wrong', or 'huh, a lot of people are mad about what I said, hence they must all be wrong'?
Sounds like you get an ego trip off your depression.
Some of the worlds greatest artists, inventors, etc did their best work because they confronted the darkness of the world, and the darkness of themselves. And because of their darkness they had a lot to work with.
But to say that only unhappy people see the world for what it is is highly facetious. No, in fact, it's more than that. It's evidence of a clear desire to interpret your own suffering in a way that demonstrates your superiority over others, and as ploy to discredit those who spread hope and positivity.
I think it's very sad if the lenses of your world are so narrow that you can only see the depressed as wise, and the positive as dreamers, and I pity you, but don't try and sell that perverted mindset on to the rest of us.
The fact is, people use Youtube, Farmville, etc as a form of escapism from the challenges of life, which do, as you said, include confronting reality and the many negatives of it. This is an incredibly difficult task, and it's understandable that so many of us shy from it, in small ways almost every day. But it isn't an impossible task, and there are many great (and happy) people who demonstrate this. Off the top of my head Gandhi, Mandela, and the Dalai Lama all embody this truth perfectly.
And as for creative people needing depression to fuel their creativity; go watch 'Bill Cunningham New York', and tell me that creative brilliance and happiness aren't compatible.
Well good god that was awful. I agree with the Author's final points; that there are less wars, disasters, etc, and that the world is a better place than before. But it seemed like he just wanted to go on a long-winded pleasure cruise telling us how much happier people are who don't know how happy they are.
What an obvious attempt at pulling at our heartstrings. Instead I just wanted to vomit.
Every morning before I start work I write a brief paragraph on what I am planning to work on today, and what I need to achieve to call the day a success. Keeps me focused and acts as a trigger to immediately launch into work: "Right, I've got that out of the way, what's next?"
