I've been here before and felt the anger, then felt how it was really utter sadness, which would lead to lots of crying, which helped. The crying let me see what was important.
Now I know to let crying take place when it is at the door. I don't know how close this is to your situation. Two cents if you want them.
Car Talk was wonderful when I was listening to NPR. I had to stop listening after their abdication of duties in the 2000 election and the subsequent wars. I now understand NPR to be just a shill for our corporate government. Tom and Ray were great though.
Now I know to let crying take place when it is at the door. I don't know how close this is to your situation. Two cents if you want them.