My grandfather survived Pearl Harbor and became a B-25 pilot in one of those cohorts with an 80%+ casualty rate. As a kid, I enjoyed reading and hearing about his experiences. It made me proud of his service. But I'm not sure it lessened the stresses and anxieties I felt during my own adolescence. Years later when a close family member had a near death/should have died experience, that meaningfully altered my perspective on life - because I experienced it first hand.
I had dinner in Seattle last week and the waiter did not mention the 20% service fee. The way the bill was delivered in a suspiciously folded manner, one would have had to dig through to find where it was printed. I tipped 20% on top of what I thought was the dinner bill and didn't connect the dots until the next day. I called the restaurant and addressed it privately but I do wonder how many people are blindly taken advantage of by what could be considered an analog dark pattern and never catch it.