But for example, I picked my next school based on where my elementary school friends went and insisted to my parents that this is where I wanted to be, despite it being a worse choice for my then-grades. And then a few years later again, I picked for my school path to be economics over math (what I actually wanted to do), because my friends picked it.
Or, I was convinced for a while I wanted to work in a hotel post-school for no reason, despite learning programming by myself and being a computer kid writing my own programs and websites. I even applied to hotel-related jobs constantly until my parents pushed me to go to software engineering instead.
So what I mean with 'driven by impulsivity' is that often important decisions aren't handled with reason, but with pure emotion and impulses. Most of the time that's fine when you're young, but there are still times when you want to use logic over impulses.
Sure we can manage without medicine (have done so for 25 years of my life) but constant struggling and arguing with yourself about small things is just not fun.
The difference is if those issues are actually becoming a problem that affects your day-to-day life vs just a mild annoyance. When you can’t get your task at work done because you just really don’t care about it for example. Or when you again throw out your entire salary into this weeks dumb hobby that you are fully convinced isn’t just a phase.
It’s also worth noting that adhd is a spectrum and not a binary condition. Some people have more problems in some things while some other people struggle with something else, or have it very mild.
When I take meds I actually don’t feel any different. It’s just easier to stick to things and in more mentally balanced.
Funny story - I actually found out that I had adhd because I commented on a HN post about my productivity issues and someone suggested that those don’t sound normal. Even just officially knowing what’s wrong helped a lot with managing (even without meds) because I understand where these impulses are coming from for example
Thanks for the advise, I'll just stop lying to myself about my non-neurotypical brain that I have since being a child [0]. Who knew it would be that easy to overcome by just trying harder.
> None of you ever want to hear it, but everyone goes through this. It’s the human condition.
Comments like this make me angry because it shows how much of a disconnect there is with taking ADHD serious. It's like saying to a depressed person to "just don't be sad and focus on something fun".
Sure everyone struggles, but imagine those struggles cranked up by 20x. You overthink EVERYTHING, you're driven by random impulses that make you focus on something new and shiny, that make you yourself believe that this is not an impulsive, but this time something worth committing to, just to lose interest 2 weeks later.
Small negative things like someone not replying to your message right away can result in dysphoric episodes without medicine and completely crush your motivation for days.
You drop everything to do dumb things like replying to your comment even though I should be working right now, but I can't not do it, my brain just doesn't let go.
My brain always works in extremes without a middle-setting. Either I'm 100% into something, or I am so not interested that doing mundane things that don't have an immediate urgency feel like having a tooth pulled out and I'd rather do anything else instead. Try translating that to more boring tasks at work and you can see how this becomes a problem.
The list goes on and on and on. Living with ADHD is a nightmare and constant struggle.
If you have resources and time to let your ADHD brain go free it can be fun, but it becomes a struggle when you try to be a working adult with normal job.
I'm not even talking about 'not being able to concentrate' because that's easily fixed with medicine. nowadays But ADHD is so much more involved on the emotional and psychological level.
My childhood was mostly 'driven by impulsivity', so having medicine available to me back then doesn't sound bad.
I too bought those shares with the anticipation that the price will go up due to the hype generated. I made a careful decision to do so by estimating that the traffic on /r/wsb will increase because of the news coverage, which causes people to buy those shares. I don't live in the states and don't use Robinhood, but a local broker that charged me a good bit for US stock trading.
Robinhood halting trading tanked the price in afterhours immediately, and it will likely crash further on opening because of this. As a result, I too will lose money.
Sure that's what you get with market gambling and speculation but I find it ridiculous that this company now singlehandled crashed the stock and results in losses for global independent investors like myself.
Being able to only sell shares and not buy is directly playing towards the hedge funds. It will drive the price down and positions might get closed. If what reddit did was market gambling and manipulation, what robinhood is now doing is the same, just in the opposite direction.
I’m not a parent but I have adhd and working from home is extremely hard for me, much harder than I want to admit. I just can’t concentrate at home and always end up distracted and doing something else.
I can’t for the sake of it focus on work in my apartment.
But for example, I picked my next school based on where my elementary school friends went and insisted to my parents that this is where I wanted to be, despite it being a worse choice for my then-grades. And then a few years later again, I picked for my school path to be economics over math (what I actually wanted to do), because my friends picked it.
Or, I was convinced for a while I wanted to work in a hotel post-school for no reason, despite learning programming by myself and being a computer kid writing my own programs and websites. I even applied to hotel-related jobs constantly until my parents pushed me to go to software engineering instead.
So what I mean with 'driven by impulsivity' is that often important decisions aren't handled with reason, but with pure emotion and impulses. Most of the time that's fine when you're young, but there are still times when you want to use logic over impulses.