Yes, if they bring insights. Not merely facts or data.
Matt Levine, Farnam Street, James Clear - they add value in their own ways.
I dont read every issue though.
A philosophical approach may help. Change is the only constant expectation that I have. All of my past work over 25+ years is now deprecated, obsolete, tech-debt, or irrelevant. It is the nature of software. Intangible work built upon ephemeral stacks, all to go away with time. My personal metric: how much I can keep pace with. Rate of change vs deep-rooted expertise.
Had a torture filled 4 years in my undergraduate degree. Mostly poor grades throughout. But I aced the 2 internships as part of the degree program. Several profs told me that had the university believed in absolute marking versus relative, I would have been booted out in the third year itself.
I can solve real world problems, but cant understand theory and textbooks beyond a point. Definitely struggle with closed scope problems in exams.
I learnt to code - started with frontend development, which was easier back then. Basically, find something in software that you can excel at, with ease, within months.
Resilience beats academic excellence in the real world of solving typical problems and earning a decent living.
The idea of leaving behind a lasting legacy of work is vanity squared. The ones who do selfless work for open-source do not necessarily do it for a place in history. The point of choosing a purely materialistic software career was to have the ego humbling of watching one's work get decimated or trivialized in due course.
Nice tips, but context specific. In my observation and experience, no rules apply when power dynamics and culture specific nuances are in play.
Examples: A setting where the group has pre-decided to exclude you - think snooty neighbourhoods. Pre-conceived biases cant be overcome.
An unruly boss who bulldozes and dominates. A cool crowd that stigmatizes the nerds. Or cultures where fragile masculinity hinges upon dominating at all costs and multiple folks speaking over each other.
Also: these rules are hard to remember and apply in rapid conversation, for folks who are borderline autistic.