There is no "not playing the game." Exit the game and find yourself simultaneously entering a larger meta-game with the exact same social dynamics at play -- and this time it's even harder because you have even less knowledge of the game's mechanics.
There is no winning, there is no losing, and there is no exiting the game without simultaneously entering a larger game that is even harder to comprehend. There is only play.
What role do you choose? That's the only relevant question. You've already chosen a role unconsciously, and changing that role starts with conscious effort but must continue with years of unconscious functioning until you no longer recognize what you once considered to be "you." You look back and realize that one role is just as good as another, and the power of choice that felt so good to exert at the time holds zero value to look back and reflect upon. The MOPlike narcissism that fueled your choice has been obliterated and there is no narcissistic fuel left in your tank even to feel proud of your role-switching retroactively.
Is the effort of choosing a new role for yourself worth the cost of assuming that role and rendering your prior role meaningless? Doubtful IMO. Few can change roles at all, and those who do neither regret nor relish their choice — they simply look back on the choice that once felt so good to make and go "Huh. I chose that once. Okay."
Again: There is no winning, there is no losing, and there is no exiting the game without simultaneously entering a larger game that is even harder to comprehend. There is only play. You can switch roles within that play if you want, but the cost is non-zero and the benefit could be precisely zero.
I smoked ten spliffs a day for more than five years. I switched to vaping (JUUL) and CBD oil tincture and I was miraculously relieved of my marijuana addiction.
Try CBD oil dude. You might find, like I did, that you smoke weed despite the THC, not because of it. You might be smoking purely for the CBD — why not isolate the variable and try CBD oil tincture under the tongue ?
FWIW I use an olive oil tincture that I purchase from the dispensary with a 20:1 CBD-to-THC ratio. I find that it gives me all the positive effects of weed (relaxation, anxiety/depression relief) and none of the negative ones (paranoia, weed hangover, irritability whenever I wasn't high). It's also cheaper by an unbelievable degree. The amount of THC in the tincture is not nearly enough to get me high, it's only there to help the CBD work its magic.
This is an incredibly shaky argument. The Halo Effect is real, and those who vape or have tattoos don't benefit from it.
Is the benefit of driving away people who understand the Halo Effect greater than the detriment of not being able to capitalize on the Halo Effect oneself? Incredibly doubtful IMO.
No, my entire point is that the articles misleading headline makes the rope sound like a minor detail. We agree that the rope is much more than a minor detail. My point is that it's suspiciously omitted from the title.
I'm with u dude, it's extremely odd phrasing to say that the airbnb "LETS" you run the bookstore when the article makes clear that running the bookstore is a requirement of staying at the airbnb. There's no option described that involves NOT running the bookstore so it seems like an extremely poorly phrased title.
I did not miss the word "solo." Honnold is not the worlds greatest solo climber by a Longshot. He's the greatest "free solo" climber. A ton of solo climbers are way better than him, they just use ropes
The idea that honnold is the world's greatest climber is patently absurd and false, he's just the only dude willing to do the crazy solos without a harness -- aka the world's most risk taking climber. But "greatest climber?" Lol give me a break lolololol
Serial was basically a Black Swan event dude, no one I know listens to narrative audio content when they could watch narrative video content instead.
It's true that listening is easier to do on the move, but people just prefer to listen to music. I've never met anyone who is more into podcasts than music.
TL;DR the market just isn't very big and what market there is has already been captured by podcast services.
You appear not to understand the concept of a safe word.
The entire point of a safe word is that it is SHORT and MEMORABLE, not long and generic. "I quit the experiment" is a highly generic phrase, easily forgotten. Calling that phrase a "safe word" is absolutely absurd.
Also, even if I accepted your argument that "I quit the experiment" Is somehow a "safe word"-- it still wouldn't be technically correct to say, because it's not a word, it's a phrase / sequence of words. Have you ever heard of a "Safe phrase?" Me neither. That's because making a "safe word" a phrase completely defeats the concept of a safe word. It needs to be short enough to be said and understood in as little time as possible. Making a "safe word" a phrase instead of a short and easily-communicable SINGLE WORD is so deceptive and intellectually dishonest that it's clearly a willful and intentional misunderstanding of the safe-word concept. It's trickery, pure and simple.
Good safe word: "Banana."
Bad safe word: "Stop."
Terrible to the point of being unusable safe word: "I quit the experiment."
Zimbardo's lack of addressing this issue in his so-called "rebuttal": pathetic.
For real. This dude could have just said "the lone wolf alpha-male archetype is rooted in truth" and then wrote a listicle supporting his points and he would have gotten his argument across so much better. He formatted it as a long-winded essay for no apparent reason but his choice of format actually inhibits understanding his point, it doesn't enhance its understandability in any way.
Zimbardo has lost all credibility, the fact that this begins with anything but a point-by-point refutation of the Medium article just highlights that fact.
The Medium article was highly illuminating and included so many different sources that Zimbardo's response here just reads as a desperate attempt to regain credibility that's LONG gone.
Realest HN comment of the day. Damore ignored all natural laws (re: conform or get ostracized) to try and make a point about how natural laws will always assert themselves. Ironically he proved his own point that natural laws will always assert themselves by failing to conform and then getting ostracized.
The rest of his argument was pretty incoherent tho.
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"... I bet you cry during political speeches ... half-assed ... can't even believe ... "
You make a very unemotional, well reasoned and logical argument, I see.
I honestly think if we met in person we could laugh about this
Hahaha I totally agree. Well played my friend. Sorry for trolling ya so hard you just got my goat with the emotional rhetoric lol but I see you were just responding in kind to someone else. Have a good night man. :)
For someone who talks so much about empathy you ironically completely fail to empathize with Asians.
You're making an emotional argument not a logical or reasoned one so I can tell your mind is the type that isn't persuaded by facts but instead by emotional rhetoric. I bet you cry during political speeches.
You're not worth my time to try to persuade because you just demonstrated a thought process based on anecdotes and evidence and empathy you extend to only one marginalized party instead of both. So instead of giving you the "imagine you're a Cambodian first generation immigrant who gets shat on daily by society AND STILL has a fraction of the chance to get into Harvard as Michael Jordans son" I'll just say: good day to you sir and good luck with your half assed thought process and your attempts to ride the moral high horse of empathy when ironically extending empathy to only one party.
Your thought process is flawed, your reasoning is flawed, and you utterly lack the empathy and compassion you claim to exault. Peace out and good luck with your half assed anecdote-based reasoning -- meanwhile I'll be chilling here looking at the data, calling a spade a spade, and calling a racist admissions process a racist admissions process. You don't get virtue points for throwing your ethnicity under the bus when your ethnicity is actively being marginalized btw. Can't even believe how racist you are rly. Good day to u sir