I can relate to this. The "permission" aspect also cuts both ways sometimes, because I learned to be cautious and then _that_ became the thing I was doing wrong, according to others, who berated me for not being assertive enough.
The incompatibility is indeed exponentiated with TypeScript.
There is currently no non-hacky way for using both legacy modules and ES Modules in the same project, and many libraries on NPM have moved to ESM-only. TypeScript's transpilation needs to know what to target as regards modules and JS version, which makes things even crazier than they already are.
The worst one for me is the lack of visual feedback after clicking on a link. It makes me question whether I clicked properly and leads me to click again.
Interestingly I experienced persistent bullying that included physical assault and mental abuse (it was always successfully passed off as a joke when they did something to me) in the French system.
It was so bad that I still relive it daily every single day now, many many years later.